thank you so much - and you're right about ridicule revealing more about the perp than the subject of ridicule. I'm ok with constructive criticism, but I don't need to be mocked, reviled, or laughed at to get to the point. Funny thing. I saw my dad on Christmas Day and he didn't have a single negative thing to say to me about me - in fact he was positive - and that was one of the best gifts ever!!!
thanks again and all good wishes to you too!