In today's world, we all lead busy lives. Always thinking of the next thing to do even though we haven't necessarily finished the one we have at hand; especially since discovering steemit, the platform is so vast that one could get lost in it all... With all of life's lemonades, at some point, you just might get stuck in a shit load of activities you'd want to carry out but still haven't had the time to do it. Heck, you might have even gotten yourself into some kinda trouble that scares the shit outta you, so much that you cannot concentrate. It could be those times of personal struggle, with so much clutter on the thought of reality, sprinkled and tangled with fictitious inner ramblings that it's hard to differentiate the two. You begin to get drained emotionally. Soon, your mental spaces begins to get filled up simultaneously and it becomes cluttered resulting in you being stressed and anxious...
In such sticky situations like personal glooms, we freeze, rather than think out the next thing to do to keep on; we think backward. We imagine if we had done things differently and how it would have turned out. We would push off accepting the reality simply because we don't wanna feel like failures and the more we succumb to these dialogues within, we become hostile to other cool people, holding ourselves back from going ahead and find ourselves in even more mental clutter... happened to me in my past relationship, which I've decided never to talk about on the blockchain, it so happens that I've so much to do that than bitch about my past on here!
Well, truth is; you failed! No need getting unhealthy or emotionally drained over something you cannot fix. Rather, simply accept the fact and try to do things a bit differently the next time.
Now, here's what you need to do to take care of yourself:
You need to get outta your mind and start living in the present again but decluttering takes time, so be warned. However, how you do that is outlined in three easy steps below:
Take deliberate decisions to see to your self-growth and development. Decide to let go for a while in order to rediscover yourself and your values. To give your best to others, you need to take care of yourself first. Lets try these out for starts:
1. READ ALL YOU CAN:
By reading, you connect to the mind of the author/blogger and see things from a different perspective. Maybe you have always thought your failed relationship was all the other person's fault, you get to discover that you played a huge part in it than you give yourself credit for. Reading helps you discover similar things that relates to you, and you find out you've probably been barking up the wrong tree. You begin to see the very thing that caused you pain in a different light.
2. WRITE WRITE WRITE!
One thing I used to get over mental declutter was to write down those random feelings and thoughts as they come to me and a lot more others. Writing is the purest form of non-violent release of emotion and swirling thoughts. Just let 'em flow. You feel a tingle or a thing? Grab some quill and ink and scribble away!!!
3. MEDITATE AND GIVE TIME FOR SELF REFLECTION AND QUIETNESS:
Most times, when people hear this word, "meditate", they think it should involve sitting on the floor of the living room, with our backs straight and our eyes closed in concentration on our breathing. Nope, Nada! Meditation shouldn't always be that way. It could be just sitting and relaxing in a peaceful, tranquil environment, it's more about solitude and having time for yourself to reflect on choices.
There you go.. Three easy steps to take. Also, I should state that to truly declutter and uncover the truth within yourself, these steps should come natural to you everyday, or at least you should try keeping them as habits on impulse. As you learn to declutter your mental space, you find that things become clearer, little things you ignored make so much sense to you, you begin to realize answers to questions you had, you see things in a new light, and you begin to live again...
Do you have so much to think of? So much to do? How about laying aside the things that aren't priority first, and deal with the ones that are? That should help.
Again, pause and go through your thoughts, you never know, maybe your next task could be decluttering your mental clutter...
Thank you for reading,
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This is just what i needed. I'm use to #2 which is to pour myself out on paper. I'll commit to #1 (reading) and #3 (meditating).
Thank you for this @Stach
You're welcome
I find the writing part to be very theraupeutic. I often just wrote down my feelings in a sort of journal and read it to my self later on to see if I feel any different
Writing how you feel sometimes reduces the pain. It's like some weight have been lifted off your shoulder.
This is beautiful. I agree with all your decluttering tactics. I already practice reading and meditation, I'll adopt writing.
Thank you dear.
So true. Spot on. Nice one. Read to learn more and it helps with better thinking and mindset. Write down your heart, it helps you feel better and also know if what you have read has in anyway shaped your thoughts and have a moment whereby you sit down in quietness and watch how answers and ideas start popping into your head. I totally love this post @annieben.
Interesting. I don't do much of writing but I read and mediate a lot. Sometimes trying to act
I always tell my mentees and fellow mid- senior career colleagues that a man's development, is first, his responsibility, not government's, not his company's, no anyone's.
And without self development, there will be no capacity. Without capacity, we will ill-prepared, ill-equipped and unable to maximize opportunities around us.
I like the tips you've listed. If followed and applied, the individual will unleash new possibilities.
I totally agree with you. I usually do just #3(always worked though). But learnt how to do #1 and #2 also when i joined Steemit . Well written @annieben.
great post .. I really like this post
Thank you for such an informative article. You will laugh probably, but i also sometimes talk to myself and take my anger out of me. And also prayer helps a lot. When you cry in front of The Creator, it gives you immense contentment.
great work keep writing more stuffs
i rate you 6/10.
You need to turn that six upside down
the Sad thing is that this is 2018 and reading books is still considered "nerdy." 😫
Stach! Keep it up
I can't disagree with you boss... Writing helps me better
You got amazing help offered with this piece. It is always helpful to just let it out and free up for inner peace and a de-cluttered mind. Useful piece and therapeutic.
@yowanetwork
I often find myself thinking about Steemit throughout the day. I started turning off my computer a few hours before bed so I can get time to think about other things and calm down. I tend to run around like a chicken with my head cut off while I'm here. Like you said, there is so much to do and see and read and comment. It can be maddening.
One of the tricks I use is to write down ideas I have for articles, or contests, and such. I can just go back to them when I need inspiration.
If I get to stressed about Steemit (or life), I can just write that down too. Sometimes just getting it down on paper is enough to demystify the jumble of stressors and allow me to move forward.
The writing aspect does it best for me.
I write to free up from the inside.