This is a topic I started to think after someone thought they had insulted me in the comments, so the person “deleted” the comment. It was a misunderstanding anyways, a case number 294628 where a person doesn’t understand I’m joking. It made me think and laugh at how ridiculous people are when they try to please you. Erasing a comment or revising it to something different, apologising greatly for their earlier comment. In a way, acting like that was not their opinion to begin with. This mostly happens with men who are from certain countries where their English is not very good, but still, it’s so ridiculous and pathetic.
Do you think that erasing a comment changes anything? You already said it, I already read it. Did you change your mind in the matter of minutes? Can you not stand behind your words at all? We are talking about the smallest little thing, something what doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Are you as quick to change your mind in bigger, more important matters too? Makes me wonder.
Sure you could have a full blown debate about something, where both try to make the other side to see their way, or find some sort of middle ground. But if you say a simple opinion about the look of someone, and the person doesn’t like it, why do you change your statement about it? You could say, oh well, I still think X is cute, no matter what you say.
If you have an opinion and you voice it out, I think you should be able to stand behind your statement. You could change it if the opinion was based on a miscalculation or lack of knowledge in the time of making it. But if you strongly believe in something, I think you should have the balls to not change your statement and be ready to argue your side of things to make the other person understand your view. And what comes to personal preference, they isn’t much to argue, you like what you like and that’s that.
I think that we should all be ready to admit when wwe made a mistake or did something wrong (for full ironic effect I made a genuine spelling mistake!).
Lets say I insult you, perhaps Im drunk posting, who knows? You respond rightfully and give me a roasting, well shit, my new perspective on that comment I made, makes me think I should at least apologise.
Is it likley this was a drunk poster, probably not, but people learning they cant talk crap about anyone on the internet I think is a great advance, and if they want to retract that comment, well thats a bit of shit removed from our eyes, so why not? Of course the irony of steemit is we are blockchain, and their mis-deed is recorded forever.
So I say, yeah, stick to your principals, fight for your opinions. But I also say, be ready to recognise you are human, that you arent always right, and sometimes you do random stupid stuff, and in those cases, be ready to retract and apologise.
Thats MY opinion, take it or leave it, haha!
Like I said, maybe you made a miscalculation or was uneducated about something, but I still think you shouldn't try and erase the past. Drunk texts and comments are the best because some of the filter is removed and people might actually say what they have in their mind ;)
Luckily we don't find it as problem, being politically not correct I mean. And who cares which side is more popular one, ours is always right ;D
Yeah, just agree with us on everything! Though if one would do that, always agreeing to what we say, it's stupid and they clearly lack balls. You can never win with us...
"The house always wins" playing with us is like gambling!
Anyone up for a round? 😈
White pawn to D4
I completely disagree with everything you say. Oh wait. considering this topic disagreeing with you could also probably be interpreted as trying to please you... Well fuck. Maybe this would work better after a drink or two.
But where does pleasing others end and pleasing ourselves begin? For example I could be editing a post for my own sake because after posting it I came up with a better way to express my point. End result might be more pleasing to you as well.
Or we could also look at nicknames. I have called you many different names. I enjoy the fact that I can come with something new or unique. Perhaps you find that entertaining as well but I would not do that if it would not be fun for me. Even our game in general has to be interesting to both you and me or it would be no fun.
In one of your comments you said that you try to come up with comebacks that would be entertaining to you and others. In a way that could also be considered trying to please others. If we would go on a date and I would say that you look great in certain dress/ your perfume smells great... you might pick the same dress/perfume for the next date as well. This might be unconscious decision. Or a well thought one. Sure this action would please another human being. But at the same time it would make you feel good about yourself and maybe get more compliments and attention. So perhaps at times the line between pleasing others and pleasing ourselves is a blurry one.
I think you took this a little too far from my original subject. I didn't say there is anything bad about pleasing others, but if you do it just because you want to please everyone, it's pathetic.
The comment I was originally referring to was something like: "nice ass, hope I don't offend you" and I answered jokingly that it did offend me. So then the person deleted the comment. This has happened many times in here and it's just stupid.
Of course you want to edit your work and posts if you think you can make it better, and that has very little to do with what I am talking about here. But if you were to completely change the main point of your post because someone said they didn't like it, then it would be just pathetic.
It’s on the blockchain too so....good luck tryna hide it ;)
Exactly! ;)
My father used to say 'you have 2 ears and 1 mouth - use them in that proportion' (in other words, listen before you speak). I try to apply a similar principle online (think before i type), although that doesn't always stop me from making an ass out of myself...
I have never heard that saying before, it's very good, I need to keep that in mind. But I do like to babble a lot ;)
I can't say i noticed ;)
That's right, just keep it real!
Tell it like it is!
Preach!
What are we hyping here?
being afraid they might be on the less popular one - I'm so unpopular so it doesn't even matter on which side I am :))
Then you can say anything and not be afraid of offending anyone, yay!
Yeah, at least that, but does it make sense to say anything which has no impact, just because you don't offend anyone?
Goodmorning eve
I always say to much but these days not Being political correct can be a hard one with giving alot off trouble....... Thats Why I an in a self degene class ... bring it on 😉
Take it easy😊
I never do.
I like your angry face.
That is more like resting bitch face but thanks!
well, you have mastered it, it's like your "Blue Steel"
Hello @eveuncovered, my English is not very good, helped me with online translators, I share with you that we should be firm in our opinions and beliefs unless we see that we were wrong because we lacked other evidence or variables and we have to have the courage to assume the mistake. As far as political opinion is concerned, we must be consistent with our principles; life is to be lived courageously. Happiness and blessings.
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Well i totaly don't agree with you here my friend, changing your opinioin is totaly normal and acceptable even if one changes his opinion in a few seconds, because an opinion is not always based on our believes, many times we rush to throw and say our opinion without much thinking and analysing the situation which is the most common case, for example if we forget an information or we have a wrong one about some matter or we didn't exacly understand what the other side is trying to say, so our judgment or our opinion wouldn't something to stand behind because and in a simple word its weak or wrong and if someone knows he is wrong on some matter and still stick to it so he is not stubborn but he is ignorant for sure, so changing an opinion does'nt mean i'm weak and i can't stand behind my words, we can see it as i'm strong i admit when i'm wrong and this or that what i should have said, so as soon as i discover that my comment was wrong or i could tell my point in a better way i'll edit it or erase it totally
What I don’t understand is why are you so upset about it? If someone else acts that way, it is their trait, their lack of character, not yours. But it seems like you are really pissed off by that, even frustrated.
I'm not upset 😂 if I say something, voice an opinion about someone, it doesn't mean I keep thinking about it day in and day out, I'm not loosing sleep over idiots.
Ps. if you think this is seeming like I'm pissed off, you should read one of my rants 😈
If this is you not being upset and pissed off, then you must be having meltdowns in your rants. :D
I don't do meltdowns.
I really, really don't like your elbow.
well, unless that bothers you... then, it's my favorite elbow ever.
You don't know me and my elbow(s)! Don't judge us!
I am going to have to resort to my native Finnish language to resolve this.
Wait what?