Funny isn't it?
People regard image as important.
That tells you more about them, than they will ever realize. Volumes of information can be gleaned from this life perspective.
Libraries, not volumes....
I'm not talking about making the effort to looking hot, so you score at the weekend, or anything so shallow - I'm talking life perspectives.
But what about the people that don't? (yeah, I'm looking at myself).
Did you know you that you can't actually look at two things at the same time?
You might think you can, but you really can't.
If your focus is on your image, then you are not focusing on your content.
Every millisecond of your life focused on presenting a face to the world, is a millisecond not focusing on the content of you. The message is you, the image merely the messenger.
(In media, the message and the messenger can be hard to disseminate.
Difficult, but not impossible, I can assure you).
I've never met a saint. Have you?
I only know sinners (I'm not getting religious, it's a broad statement of human behavior).
Do you know any saints?
If not, then what do you make of the people who present themselves without flaw?
The world salad aggressor is expert in trying to present themselves as such - it, but generally fails- if you are aware.
Interestingly, one of the word salad aggressors strategies it tell people they are flawed, without ever divulging what the flaws are.
(Watch for that one. It can tell you a lot. For starters, it tells you to ask questions, and get that radar spinning for confirmations..).
Being a flawed individual yourself, (as we all are), you only have two choices.
Judges others and hide your own dark secrets...
(you cannot judge and then expose your own failings - it would make you seem hollow, small, pathetic...).
OR
Live and let live, and be happy exposing yourself -warts, and all- for the rest of the world, to see.
You once you've exposed yourself (metaphorically speaking) you then become stronger than you ever were before.
To quote a line from 'Adam and the ants'
"....ridicule is nothing to be scared of..."
When no one has power over you because everyone else knows who you are, and also know that you're comfortable in your own skin - then you are truly free.
If you have secrets, you have weakness.
You are weak. You are in chains.
You will never be free.
Do you feel that you have secrets that are to be kept hidden from the rest of us. Shame? Guilt? Fear?
It doesn't matter what it is - it makes you weak, makes you small, it makes you hide.
And from that, it then makes you sneaky, duplicitous, political, disingenuous.....need I go on?
Fuck that, for a way of life.
Over the last two years on here, you've seen who I am , warts and all. Intentionally.
Truth counts, if being real means anything.
Only the truly weak little shits of this world will try to use your own past against you in a way to 'win' something.
What the fuck there is to win is beyond me.
Credibility?
Hardly.
It has quite the opposite effect, over time. If you are playing long.
Don't be weak, it makes you live in fear.
...more than anything, they are scared of who they are. Scared to show the world who they are...
If they were not scared of who they are, then why would they not share their 'guilty' secrets?
Judgement? ( we just covered the insanity of that, above).
...aaaaaaaaand back to word salads.....
Word salads deflect any meaningful 'getting to know' anyone, for precisely that reason.
to avoid reality.
Straight talk, means closer to the real truths.
And truths are the mortal enemy of the word salad aggressor.
It's no coincidence the word salad strategies used by those who choose to implement them, are very closely linked to the psychopath and sociopath/narcissistic personality types and their modus operandi.
After all, the last thing these personality types ever want - is to be truly seen.
It would rob them of their self perceived 'power' that they think they possess.
The weak fucks.
Yeah, so back to the title of the post....
If you haven't been clever enough to see what I've been doing for this last 2 years ( intentionally, mostly) then that's on you. It's not my fault.
(.....and sometimes quite unintentionally I might add - hey I'm human, not an AI. But I don't care!... No contrived public image here.)
Shame and guilt are for pussies, and it's not a misogynistic statement - more about that at the bottom of this post, to illustrate what I mean....
Exposure to the light is the best (only?) way to expunge those most cancerous of those emotional states.
Even if I can't see in you, your 'oh, so very hard worked on image, and persona', the very act of image construction tells people so much.
You broadcast more about yourself than you will ever know, ...just by doing it - Scary, uh?
...and if you have the correct receiver, to be able listen to what's being broadcast...Ouch!
Here is a very simple example of what being weak can mean, and the ripple effects.
......You're sat at a table having a romantic meal with your significant other. Hell, lets say it's valentines day - or your anniversary even - to throw the cat among the pigeons...
You are looking into each others eyes, totally in love, when, in the corner of your eye - you see the most beautiful vision of a person, that you have ever seen, come into view (whatever that is to you, it doesn't matter).
You significant other asks "What are you thinking, right now"
Are you ready to be seen for who you are, or are you gonna be weak?
.....My reply in that very specific setting?
'God...I wanna do her'.
OHHHH!...more cats, more pigeons....
Guys - if you think you've gotten away with it, when thinking something similar and asnwering dishonestly - You haven't, you idiots.
But you have told your other half that you're too weak to be strong....
And Girls!!!.... Guys always think things like this, all the time....Lying is weak.
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I guess some people just aren't the dirty laundry type. Does that really make them dishonest? I don't think so, was it ever there business to begin with. If someone can't see the forest for the trees I am not going to give them a pair of binoculars.
...there is a difference in choosing to air 'dirty laundry' and avoiding and being open.
That's not dishonest.
I have my stuff I, and like you say - it's no ones business but your own.
That's quite different from creating a image of yourself to present to the world, and the cost of that investment in your presentation ....is not being honest.
Oh sweetie from what I've gather of your image presentation if I was sitting next to you in a bar, depending upon the amount of attraction, I'd take you home to get the best of the worse of you.
Dress it up anyway you desire but it still comes down to seeing the forest for the trees. Just as I see you people see me, it all plays into the classification of class, are you a glowing redwood, the undergrowth or just plain dirt on the forest floor. Unfortunately for me I'd be considered the latter to anyone I'd consider worth it so there really isn't any reason to keep on trying.
I'm not trying to present 'an image'. Just being me.
That is very presumptuous of you mademoiselle(?) - Humph! that I would go home with you ....
(although, in fairness- and historically speaking - I rarely say no to anything fun).
I don't identify with trees, soil or small herbaceous species, so I can't really give you much input on that one...
I know it was presumptuous, it works both ways, don't worry I know I am not your type. lol.
mmm......it's also very presumptuous to know what my type is, isn't it? lol
Nice picture of JFK's wife