Here we are again. It is yet another beautiful Saturday night and yes it is 6pm, time for your favorite show, Saturday Night With Zizy. This is episode 11 and the responses have been amazing so far. It is a great feeling knowing that this show is impacting lives and strengthening relationships on the block chain and outside the block chain. Keep the testimonies coming, guys.
As it is my habit I shall first of all give honour to whom honour is due. These set of people and some new faces made last week’s outing a superb one. It gives me thrills to know that some people take time out of their busy schedule to appreciate the work I’m doing by dropping wonderful comments. The likes of @dubem-eu, @cornholio, @one-person, @adore-eu, @christianolu, @tochprince, @mizdais, @shollstun, @preciousimo, @mittymartz, @jeaniepearl, @surfyogi, @korexe, @omoyiwolabusayo, @urchice, @aksapphires, @holybranches, @scarletmedia, @doris-adioha, @ttopswag, @eurogee, @adabless, @rebeccafl, @vheobong and some others who have been regulars but for one reason or the other weren’t able to make it last week. I want y’all to know that you have a special spot in my heart. Thank you guys for coming around and I hope to see more of you.
Without much ado, DJ play the music in jenifa’s voice…..LOL
RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY
Last week, we had a very interesting outing on the topic, is it just sex or he wants more. Those of us who attended the radio show and after party on airhawk discord server had so much fun as we rubbed minds together and did justice to the above topic. During the show, @samuelwealth said, “it is true that some men want just sex but there are also women who want just sex. How can a man be able to decipher this?” Even though I had something else in mind to talk about thus week, it is only fair I balance out the equation.
IS IT SEX OR SHE WANTS MORE?
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It is generally accepted that men want sex but it may surprise you to know that there are some women out there who just want a romp in the hay. The increasing number of the so called cougars is a testament to the number of women who enjoy a no-strings attached sex. Some young ladies are satisfied with just casual dating. It could be that they got out of a messy relationship but have sexual urges that vibrators cannot fill the gap or it could be a very adventurous and sexually active young lady who enjoys having the opportunity to flirt with as many men as she desires without being accountable to anyone.
The relationship could have started off as just casual dating but then her personality, charm and the sound of her laughter got you enchanted and now you want more. You have high hopes that the sex is great and so she would be excited to take this to another level. When a woman notices you are trying to force things and she is not interested, she becomes repelled and starts backing off.
A woman can find you attractive but only in a sexual way. To such a woman, talks about exclusivity make her uncomfortable. That subject is feminine in mature and she sees you as acting like the woman and so she gives you the response men give when a lady wants to know where a relationship is headed. It will be a lot easier for her to come out and say she wants just sex and risks being called a slut, nah, she will rather play her game smoothly and hopes you understand. Once your sex game is top notch, she becomes clingy just to keep having that fantasy. Do not be deceived that all women looking for a partner are looking for a long term relationship regardless of the pressure on her to settle down. Sometimes, they just want to have fun with no responsibilities.
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HOW DO YOU KNOW IT IS JUST SEX OR SHE WANTS MORE.
It is just sex when she gives you a mixture of good emotions and painful ones. A woman who wants sex will keep having sex but at the same time not define what it is all about and when you try to define it she acts like ice. She leaves you wondering what it is she really wants. She gives you as much space as possible and the only intimate time with her is during sex.
It is just sex when the communication is poor. Women love attention, they love to have you call them or chat them up all the time. A woman who wants just sex will hardly respond to your chats or calls except she is horny. On a not horny day, her responses to your chats are delayed and in monosyllables. The conversation is either boring or flirtatious but never meaningful. She enjoys flirting with you but not talking to you and even when you meet up, she makes no effort to keep the conversation going.
It is just sex if she shows no genuine interest in your person/personality. It is crazy to discover after six months of romping in the hay that you know nothing private about her neither does she know any private thing about you. A woman who wants just sex is not interested about your person or personality. She doesn’t care about your future ambitions or profession or hobbies. Even when you try to talk about these things, it is clear she has no genuine interest. The only thing she wants to know is when next you are meeting up.
It is just sex if she acts sexual with you all the time. Phone calls have a sexual undertone and chats are filled with sex talks. The few times you hang out or spend time together, she is either squeezing your ass or biting your earlobe. She is always the first to initiate sex. Whenever you try to make her understand how special she is to you, she is always quick to remind you that you are just friends.
It is only sex when she is always inviting you over. Many men do not understand this language. A woman who never wants to hangout but always wants behind closed door meetings in her crib is clearly just after sex. She hardly visits you and when she does, she never sleeps over. Once the sex is over, she ups and leaves.
It is just sex if she talks without discretions. She tells you about her past not caring if you will be judgmental or not. She is quick to talk about the naughty impulsive stuff she has had with other men in the past. A lady who wants a future with you will be stingy with information she gives out about her private life so as not to be seen in a bad light. She tells you about the guy coming over next weekend and even makes you choose the sexy lingerie she would wear when he comes over.
It is just sex when she cares about investing on you. This is for the cougars. They feel the need to invest on you or reward you financially.
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These are all generic signs and may or may not mean something. Whether a woman wants a one night stand or a fling, it doesn’t mean she is easy and will always be open to anything. The decision is yours to make. You can decide to dump her, keep her or make her chase you. You can decide to make that sexual encounter worthwhile. You never know when it will end. Step up your oral sex techniques, be aggressive and strong but sensual and tender. Don’t express love verbally, let her feel it but don’t give her complete certainty about it then pull away, get her very jealous and watch her chase after you.
DATING TIPS
No relationship can be successful if you don’t feel good about yourself both inside and out. Take care of yourself.
FUN CORNER (JUST FOR LAUGHS)
Ladies, have you ever waited for your period that you knelt down and prayed to God that if I see my period this time, I will never have sex again?
DEAR ZIZY
ANONYMOUS 1
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Hi @zizymena, please I need help. There is this female colleague of mine that has the hots for me. The way she flirts with me recently has always given me concern but I pretend not to read meanings into it because we have been friends and colleagues for 5 years now. Some days ago, she came into my office and made a verbal proclamation, telling me how much feelings she has for me and how she wants a relationship. I was shocked because it took me unawares moreover I am in a relationship. I made her understand this fact and since then she has sworn me as an enemy for life. She changed towards me and refuses to talk to me. I'm worried because I miss our friendship. Please how do I handle this situation?
ANONYMOUS 2
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I need to understand women. My girlfriend is weird. She is a nice girl but she is weird. She never visits me and when I visit her she will never give me food or even water and sometimes I spend the whole day with her and goes back home hungry except the days I go out to buy snacks for myself and she will still share it with me. Sex is not amazing because she only enjoys spooning and heads and my waist is paining me from too much spooning. The other day she practically chased me out of her house in the name of expecting an August visitor. I love her and she tells me she loves me but I feel she is using me. Please post and keep me ANONYMOUS. I'll be in the comment section.
CONCLUSION
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Wow, please let me be the first to comment.
This is true that there's a female part to last week's episode.
When a lady isn't interested in your person and your personality, poor communication but enjoys your bed skills.
You just find out that when something goes sour, no matter how flimsy, its enough to end the relationship.
And most times, aftrr the breakup there's no sign that she wanted anything to start with.
Thanks @zizymena
Beautiful piece!
Thank you so much @preciousimo and yes you are the first to comment. The points you made are valid, not interested in communication is a red flag.
Certainly, some ladies just want to have fun with no strings attached. They love to explore just like their male counterparts. Thanks for listing the signs to look out for @zizymena, they will come in handy.
ANONYMOUS 1
Some people hate to be turned down. It makes them feel inferior or less than human. This may be the situation of your colleague. Some laidies see it absurd to express their feelings to the opposite sex, when they finally take this bold step only to he turned down. They feel humiliated.
It's best you find time to sit her down and explain your perspective, let her know that you admire her as a person but you can only have her as a friend because you are already committed with someone else. You could massage her ego by complementing her and try your best to make her feel important as often as possible within the boundaries of your friendship though.
I shall be back for ANONYMOUS 2 later...
Hmmm @korexe don't you think complementing her may send wrong signals? There is a thin line between love and hate and sometimes when crossed can never be gotten back again. She doesn't even greet him or listen to him, how does he get her to agree to talk to him.
Complementing is just a way of massaging her ego. Like I said, it should b3 done within certain boundaries so as not to send the wrong message. The choice of words sho3be carefully chosen.
The line between love and hate might have been crossed 2hen he turned her down. If it's possible to have the discussion in person, then it's okay. Otherwise the use of SMS or socialedia platforms can be used.
just my opinion
Alright. Thank you so much @korexe
Hmm.The guy whose lady will not even offer water nor food should be ready to spend his hard earned money on the lady while he looks like the ladies house boy.
To the guy missing friendship from another girl when you have your relationship going, you are asking for trouble. She wants a relationship or else no friendship. Concentrate on what you have and do not stir your fiancee to jealousy.
To Zizy, your tips on knowing if all the girl wants is just sex are correct but permit me to say sometimes some babes talk without descretion. They have been trained to talk like that. In all, i still believe everyone in a relationship should use their heads. Be smart to know what your partner thinks of you. A sex machine, an Atm machine or someone whom they fell in love with no matter the condition.
Well done dear. Nice one this week
Hehehe, a sex machine, an atm machine or a chores machine,guys have to learn to figure out the various signs and what they could mean. Thank you so much mama @adore-eu for coming around. I always love your wonderful inputs.
Wow, zizy u dey try oo
You and these your anonymous people.
So there are some kind of girls that just want sex with no string. Humm
That fun corner...
Girls ve like, God i swear i would give that begger my pokect money, i promise you i would go to church next sunday... Hahaha
Me i di nor use to pray it shu come oo, at times i pray for it to be delayed self. Hahahaha, that kind package. Lmao.
Kisses @zizymena😘
@rebeccafl are you sure you don't pray for it to come? Hehehehe.....you are very funny. You didn't advise my anonymous writes. Abeg do so
Am too young to comment on issues like dis🙈
Lemme just grab my chair and popcorn to relax and learn from oga's😇.
Nice show zizy😘
@rolexxy I'm sure there is something you can contribute. Oya go and contribute sharpaly
Hmm.. we need to always check the motive behind every relationship
You are very right @funkylove
Anonymous 1: I guess its the way some women are wired, probably she does not believe you are actually in a relationship. Find a way to sit her down and define your relationship. May be your girl should visit you at work sometime.
Anonymous2: Bros define your relationship to avoid wasting of time. If she does not really want you, waka. Don't play second fiddle to anyone.
Great show as usual zizzy.
I definitely agree with anonymous' 1 girlfriend visiting him at work. Maybe she truly doubts his relationship status. Who knows? Thank you so much @blessedman939
@zizymena, thanks for bringing it hot again today and trying to be neutral on the topic by bringing the side of women on this topic.
To anonymous 1
Please better make use of the opportunity she offered you now to stay clear from her or go to her and give her what she want.
To anonymous 2
Please use your brain now or she will continue using your brain to smoke garri. Go away from this girl asap as she sees nothing good in you.
Hehehehe, you are funny @dubem-eu, using his brain to smoke garri? Thats a new one. Thanks dear for coming to the show.
@anonymous 1 , I don't know how to advice you because my advice may be bad, reason is I don't miss my chances, if I was in your position ,I would have fired her like two to three times lol, @anonymous2 did I hear you say your girlfriend is nice? , if I may ask what is your own definition of nice? It's obvious she is not treating you right, call her and talk to her first,
if no changes then flee from such relationship, the time is now, don't forget a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage
....@zizymena Good job sis, keep it up
Thank you so much @sola3097. Its always nice reading from you especially your hilarious comments.
@zizymena the relationship mentor, good job
Thank you
Hello @zizymena..
Another exciting episode. I took my time and read everything and I can tell you; today's episode is loaded! I particularly like the way you aired your views, and the closing remark where you emphasized that your views are in tandem with most scenarios but not in all scenarios. I think that spoke volumes.
My response for the various anonymous:..
If you truly means you don't have feelings for her, then I advice you stay away from her. Because going closer to her can only continue to hurt her. Perhaps this was why she effectively stayed away from you.
Great episode. Love it @zizymena 😘
Regards
@eurogee of @euronation and @steemstem communities
Hehehehe boss @eurogee of @euronation. I love your bluntness whenever you are adressing the anonymous cases. Honestly you serve it hot. Im just laughing here. Thanks boss for always coming to the show. Im grateful
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Hey hey @zizymena, How you doing today? I can see you dropped another awesome piece today. Hope you had a great week?
My opinions:
Anonymous 1
Anonymous 2
@mizdais signing out...
Bless you @mizdais. Awesome comment as always. I really need to know you beyond this show. I love your amazing inputs all the time and crazingly enough, we give same advice. Thanks dear
Awwwww... Thank you!!!!!! I will chat you up via discord later on.
Ill be waiting, darling
Today's show is great, and for the fun corner, about 85% girls who has done what an thinking have pass through that phase.
Anonymous 1: some girls are kind that, once you decline their request, you become separated. I still don't know why, sometimes I relate it to an evil spirit in them because no matter what you do to become friends again it's almost impossible. I advise you hold tight to your babe, beside you offended her not by saying NO, girls tell us NO too and we don't put an end to the friendship. Worry not. Na ogbange spirit dey inside her
Anonymous 2:
Brother, this act is called one chance, the truth is, she has lost interest in you but is hiding it from you, maybe because she thinks she may hurt you by saying it which is true to some extent. Even if it's the opposite, it's a clear sign that she is not your destined wife, because she may starve you someday and again it also depends on how you started with her, maybe you have been the one always buying when you visit and she is expecting it to continue
@shemzy all i saw is evil spirit. Did you say evil spirit? Well women dont know how handle rejection especially when they feel they made themselves cheap by speaking out about how they feel you know?
As for the second anonymous, you gave him the perfect response. Thank you do much dear for never missing the show. You are appreciated.
Zizy doctor specialist in relationship affairs.
I have want to ask you a question, are you a jealous lover?
Lol @prettyjules158 yes ma'am im a jealous lover.
One thing we guys seem not to understand about female world is not everyone wants a relationship, some just wanna have fun and probably your sex game is dope, girls we def come for more...@zizymena there's this lady that we were into each other sexually for months years ago, i couldn't bear it again cos my feeling got mixed and she doesn't have a choice than to move on cos the only thing she was enjoying from me then was the D, so it ended when i started having feeling.
Anonymous 1 : to me i think u did a very good thing thou, don't worry she will turn around but trust me she will still come for you about it, maybe this time around it will all be sexual.
Anonymous 2 : Sorry bro you don't have a woman cos if truly she cares, she will never treat you like trash.
Nice post by the way @zizymena, kindly hit the follow button @bayodesteem, i'm new on the platform
@bayodesteem im glad you can totally relate with the relationship talk as a result of your first hand experience. Now you do know that some girls are just all about sex.
Thanks for coming to this show. I want to believe this is your first time right? I hope to see more of you.
yeah i'm new but not more, stuck to your post already dear. Keep bringing out the best post. Cheers
Hehehhehehehehe clears throat
All these people that need help actually know the right thing to do lol.
Mehn i enjoyed today's discussion keep flying high dear
Thank you so much dear @jeaniepearl
Baby girl this is amazing...
I missed you sha.
When ladies want just sex e dey pain guys sha but what can person do, relationships are so much commitments these days...
Anon 1: Give her time, she probably has been expecting you to pop the question all this while and it might have taken her so much courage to make that move and apparently your just friends isn't just friends to her, she felt much more.
Give her time to get over it then apologize for keeping your relationship a secret, if you guys were close and she didn't know, it gave her space to grow her feelings.
She's come around or come back to snatch, if it gets to that point, talk to your babe about it.
Anon 2: if you feel she's using you then you might not be wrong. You most definitely can't tell if she loves you back.
I wouldn't do that to someone I'm in love with even to a friend except someone i want to get rid of and dunno how to.
@Zizymena much love shuga
Awwww @vheobong i so much miss you on this show. Where have you been? Whats been happening with you?
My dear...
Steem is 600 naira, I'm saving transportation to go back to my village
Hehehehe abeg don't go to the village o. I need you here o