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This is my entry to the 95th edition of the ladies of hive contest.
We all have a different boiling point, some of us are easily angered, others are really cool-tempered. Kindly share one thing that makes you angry, how long do you stay mad, and what or who can pacify you.
My Temper Explained...
I have a very contrasting temper. My default is cool, calm and collected but I can also be a raging bull when all the wrong strings are pulled. I live a pretty simple life with some rules/principles others may perceive as stoic and unfriendly but these have helped minimize negative encounters and clashes with people around me.
As long as my boundaries are respected and I have an understanding with someone, there is rarely a cause for a fight. I try my best to reciprocate the respect for boundaries, that way there's no encroachment and the chance of there being a flare-up on either side is reduced.
I am not quick to anger so it takes a lot to make me mad. This mostly depends on the action that pushed me to anger and/or the person involved in the action. In contrast to this, I get annoyed easily by things that are supposedly seen as trivial.
I can't accurately explain it but I've noticed that my flare-ups at little things usually turn out to be a result of accumulated tolerance of equally annoying actions. So what one may see as an unnecessary reaction to a small meaningless situation is mostly me at my boiling point with my patience running thin.
Things that get on my nerves...
As already previously suggested, blatant disrespect of my boundaries can annoy me. This may seem rigid but we all know ourselves better than anyone else and I don't think there's anything wrong with living your life in your tenets as long as it isn't causing harm to the people around you.
I dislike being ordered around. Not enough to get on my nerves? Well, I beg to differ. I used to get ordered around a lot, mostly by older people. In my culture, disrespecting older people is very frowned upon so I found myself doing things, even those that make zero sense, just because I was ordered by an older person, or someone with more authority, to do so.
The main problem I have with this besides the obvious abuse of power sometimes is the assumption that I do not possess a mind of my own. I do and I'm very capable of making decisions on my own without the unwanted help of someone that has no clue about what is good for me.
Another pet peeve of mine is unfairness. I believe in fairness to everyone. Seeing and experiencing situations where someone else or myself is treated unfairly makes me mad. I've never been one to shy away from speaking up for what I think is right so that's exactly what I do in these situations.
One thing I dislike about my anger is how much I lose control. I mostly do/say things I end up regretting after my anger has died down. It's like I act out for the right reasons in a very irrational manner which I later regret. When I play back the events in my mind, I think of better ways I could've handled the situation.
I wish most times that I can have rational anger, the type that doesn't rob me of my usual level-headedness. I don't think that's possible but all I can do is learn to get a better grip on myself when I feel the rage taking over.
Anger duration and management...
I don't stay mad for long, at least I try not to. It usually feels like the calm after the storm for me. I sometimes feign prolonged anger to convey the extent of my emotions to whoever the anger is directed at.
I also forgive easily but it's not always easy to forget. I strongly believe in the once bitten twice shy saying and it helps avoid a repeat of whatever made me angry in the first place.
Talking about whatever caused the outburst helps me deal with it. I can't talk about it to just anyone though. It has to be someone that understands me and cares about me enough to make me see things clearly and let me know if I did any wrong.
I'd like to invite @samsmith1971 to share her own experiences with the ladies of hive🤗.
Thank you @ladiesofhive. Thanks @ifarmgirl for this brilliant topic😊.
Dear reader,your time is very appreciated.❤️
This... I can totally understand. People who have long patience can lose it when their limits are reached. So whilst others see it as petty, we who have been putting up (tolerating) know that it isn't.
It's good that you forgive easily. I think that frees you from feeling heavily burdened :) As to forgetting, it sure takes time :)
Thank you lots for sharing your story :) Have a fabulous weekend to you !LADY
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Not everyone understands this but I'm happy you do😊
Yea, forgiveness frees me from the grudges I'd have held otherwise. I'm still working on forgetting but sometimes I'm not even sure I want to forget 😪
Sharing my story was a pleasure. Wonderful weekend to you too. Keep up the good work❣️
It didn't occur to me until I read yours and I said, "that's true!" because I don't really get mad until I'm fed up, lol!
I feel you about the forgetting part. It takes time but it will :)
Thank you and you too, hive on :)
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Snap although the raging bull I can count on my hand how many times that has happened Kamara:)
Enjoy your Sunday:)
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Pretty darn good, what about you?
I did thanks😊...
I'm really sorry for the delayed reply😓
oh behave, sometimes I reply days later as I miss replies!
😂I guess it happens to even the best of us😊
hehe yes it does!
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Oh girl! Someone should be very careful of that your angry o 😅
I hope you have not injured somebody in your angry mood, that's the one people regret more.
Talking to someone is a very good way to get rid of anger but that someone has to qualify to be one 😊
Nice entry
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I haven't thank God, I'm not strong enough to wound anybody 😂
Yeahh🙃
Thanks Merit🤗
Haha yeah I know, was just being silly... Your fine hair doesn't look like it has a violent owner 🤣🤣
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Happy new week!! 🥰
Thanku
Happy new week to you too dear ❤️
Pushing the wrong buttons as one gets older you tend to either ignore or snap, both work, one takes a little more patience than the other.
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