The triple burden: Working, caring and being a homemaker
A few years ago I came across the term "the triple burden", basically it's about how women have to deal with being in charge of household chores (cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing, shopping, paying bills, etc.), they also have the duty to work to support the household or help with expenses and be caregivers, either with the children or whoever needs it.
This is the reality for many women, getting up early to make lunch, getting ready to go to work, getting the children ready to go to daycare or school, taking them to school, going to work, spending the day at work, leaving work to pick up their children. Coming home, doing homework and taking care of the children until they fall asleep and the homework is done, and finally going to rest.
It is a routine in which there is a triple burden and, of course, if someone else is in charge of cleaning the house, they must work more or have a high salary to pay for the service (in the case of wanting to minimize some of the responsibilities).
Women who have so many responsibilities are seen as empowered women who can do anything, yet they are human beings who are only looking to fulfill their responsibilities and deserve a break.
How does this situation affect economic injustice and the wage gap for women?
This topic of the triple burden made me reflect on its influence on the salary gap that can exist between a man and a woman. Making a comparison of responsibilities, a woman who has so many responsibilities can hardly access the same jobs as men. It is also difficult to prioritize solo employment when there is childcare and housework to be done.
Therefore, the fact that women have so many responsibilities (work, child rearing and work) compared to men, who are usually only in charge of working (without discrediting the work they do), translates into less time to practice a profession, and this in turn translates into fewer possibilities of obtaining high salaries.
Today many men have understood that both fatherhood and housework are responsibilities of both, and this has been gradually changing the chip of what should only be done by women.
And at the same time, this division of tasks gives women the possibility of having greater opportunities to obtain decent jobs, where the wage gap between men and women is not so marked.
Personally
I have been living with my partner for a few years now, he worked and I took care of the house and studying. Then I got pregnant, so studies took a back seat and while I was pregnant I got a work from home job that I still maintain to this day.
Nowadays, when I am at home I have to take care of my daughter and my work, and when the three things come together and it's just me and my baby, I feel like I need more hands because I can't do any more. When he is at home the distribution of activities changes, but he is usually at work.
Feeling the responsibility of accomplishing all three things, physically and mentally, is exhausting. In a while my work at home job will become a face-to-face job, then I will have to find someone to take care of my daughter (she is a baby), which makes me feel quite suspicious because I don't know many people where I live and I don't have any relatives nearby. So the option of quitting my job is the one that resonates the most with me, compared to leaving my daughter with an unknown person.
That's why I totally understand when they mention the phrase "a woman will lose her job faster than a man because of the burden of caring for a child". I would like to clarify that I do not see my daughter as a burden, but as a responsibility.
Being a woman has many implications, we are associated with being mothers and caregivers, being able with everything, working, studying, being mothers and homemakers is being a strong woman, however, few notice that behind the strong and warrior women, there are women who just want to get home and have the option to rest.
Thank you for coming this far and reading this reflection on the theme of the week: Economic Injustice and the Wage Gap; proposed by the ladies of the hive, community contest #144.
I would like to know if you had ever heard of the triple burden and what you think about this topic✨.
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La Triple Carga: Trabajar, Cuidar y Ser Ama de Casa
Hace unos años conocí el término de "la triple carga", básicamente trata de como las mujeres tienen que lidiar con el hecho de ser quienes se encargan de las labores del hogar (cocinar, limpiar, planchar, lavar, hacer el mercado, pagar los recibos, etc), también tiene el deber de trabajar para sustentar el hogar o colaborar con los gastos y el ser cuidadoras, bien sea con los hijos o de quién lo necesite.
Es la realidad de muchas mujeres, madrugar para hacer la comida, alistarse para ir al trabajo, arreglar a los niños para ir al cuidado o la escuela, llevarlos a la escuela, irse a trabajar, pasar en el día en el trabajo, al salir del trabajo buscar a sus hijos. Al llegar a casa hacer los oficios y estar pendiente de sus hijos hasta que ellos se duerman y los oficios estén terminados, para finalmente ir a descansar.
Esta es una rutina donde hay una triple carga, y claro está, si se le encarga a otra persona la limpieza del hogar se debe trabajar más o tener un sueldo que dé base para pagar el servicio (en el caso de querer minimizar alguna de las responsabilidades).
Las mujeres que tienen tantas responsabilidades son vistas como mujeres empoderadas que pueden con todo, sin embargo, son seres humanos que sólo buscan cumplir con las responsabilidades y merecen un descanso.
¿Cómo afecta esta situación en la injusticia económica y la brecha salarial en las mujeres?
Este tema de la triple carga me hizo reflexionar sobre su influencia en la brecha salarial que puede existir entre un hombre y una mujer.
Haciendo una comparación de responsabilidades, una mujer que tenga tanta responsabilidad encima difícilmente tenga acceso a los mismos empleos que los hombres. También es difícil poner solo el empleo como prioridad cuando se tiene que cuidar a los hijos, y hay oficios por hacer.
Entonces, que las mujeres tengan tantas responsabilidades (oficios, crianza y trabajo) en comparación a los hombres que comúnmente solo se encargan de trabajar(sin ánimo de desprestigiar la labor que hacen ellos), arroja como resultado que exista menos tiempo para poder ejercer una profesión, y esto a su vez menos posibilidad de altos salarios.
Actualmente muchos hombres han comprendido que tanto la paternidad como las labores del hogar son responsabilidades de ambos, y eso ha ido cambiando poco a poco el chip de qué sólo la mujer debe hacerlo.
Y al mismo tiempo, esa distribución de tareas da oportunidad de que las mujeres tengan mayores oportunidades de obtener trabajos dignos, dónde la bracha salarial no sea tan marcada entre el hombre y la mujer.
Personalmente
Desde hace algunos años vivo con mi pareja, él trabajaba y yo me encargaba del hogar y de estudiar. Luego, quedé embarazada así que estudiar quedó en segundo plano y estando embarazada conseguí un trabajo desde casa que conservo hasta la actualidad.
Hoy en día estando en casa tengo que estar pendiente de los oficios, de mi hija y de mi trabajo, cuando las tres cosas se juntan y estamos solamente mi bebé y yo, siento que necesito más manos porque no doy para más. Cuando él está en casa la distribución de actividades cambia, pero normalmente está en su trabajo.
Sentir la responsabilidad de cumplir con las tres cosas, física y mentalmente es agotador. En un tiempo mi trabajo en casa pasará a ser presencial, ahí tendré que buscar quien cuide a mi hija (es una bebé) cosa que me da bastante desconfianza porque no conozco muchas personas donde vivo y no tengo familiares cerca. Entonces la opción de dejar el trabajo es de la que más me suena, en comparación a dejar a mi hija con una persona desconocida.
Por eso entiendo perfectamente cuando mencionan la frase de "una mujer perderá el empleo más rápido que los hombres debido a las cargas del cuidado". Me gustaría aclarar que no veo a mi hija como una carga, sino como una responsabilidad.
Ser mujer tiene muchas implicaciones, se nos asocia a ser madres y cuidadoras, a poder con todo, a que trabajar, estudiar, ser madres y ama de casa es ser una mujer fuerte, sin embargo, pocos notan que detrás de las mujeres fuertes y guerreras, hay mujeres que solo quieren llegar a casa y tener la opción descansar.
Gracias por llegar hasta aquí y leer esta reflexión sobre el tema de semana: La injusticia económica y la brecha salarial; propuesto por las damas de la colmena, concurso comunitario #144.
Me gustaría saber si alguna vez habían oído sobre la triple carga y qué les parece este tema✨
A mother's work is never finished.
There is always something needing done.
Thanks for sharing @samantha.asami
True, this is the reality for many women. It is good to reflect a little on this reality.
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This is indeed a routine we do almost everyday. Thanks their is a Sabbath day that I can rest.
It is a normalized routine, where rest is a privilege. And it is so good to have the option of being able to rest.
Thanks for commenting 💕
Nice term "Triple Load", I refer to wearing 'different hats' or the 'great juggling act', being a working mother is no easy task.
If you have a good pre-school or nursery school in your area they are exceptionally good for child development, teaching to mix with other children, good preparation before entering school years, a thought to consider.
With my sons I continued studying throughout my career building years, up early morning studying before preparing the boys for school with breakfast and lunches, then doing the run of dropping off at school.
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I can imagine many women juggling so many things to do, I have felt that way too.
The idea of daycare I do not rule it out, for the moment I have not researched about it, I know I have to do it to evaluate the option, its cost and how good it would be for my baby, thanks for the suggestion and for telling me about your experience.
Best regards friend! 🤗
Children being with their own age helps to prepare them for school, never an easy decision.
That would be one of the advantages that I would share with the children of his age. I have to think it through and look at all the pros and cons, because as you say amiga, it's not an easy decision.
In my opinion, I don't think there should be specific gender jobs. Any thing a woman can do, a man can also do it. House chores, taking care of kids, doing school runs and the rest are not meant for women alone. It's understandable if the male partner is a busy bee and doesn't really have time to help out. It's also important to take note of how willing he is to help out with these chores in his little free time.
Kids are not to be seen as burdens but indeed as responsibilities as you put it. I applaud you for that.
As a couple, it is up to both of you to organize how you can distribute the tasks, taking into account each other's rest and responsibilities. See it as teamwork.
Although the term in the title refers to load, I have always felt it as responsibility 💕.
Thanks for reading my post and commenting, best regards ☺️🤗
The perfect word to describe what it should be. But many men especially in my country refuse to accept this fact. They feel caring for the kids and home Care is a woman's thing.
My pleasure ☺️. Hugs💜
Many men and women think it's only women's work. I thought so too because that's what I saw at home, but it seemed unfair to me that it was like that. And over time I came to understand that it's not women's work.
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Of course it's not just a woman's job. I love it when men naturally know this thing, like without being told, they're just helpful. Have a great day friend
I had not heard of this before, but knew it well. I remember when we relocated with 3 children; I paid out all of but 50 cents per hour in child care; still had everything to do at home as well as pick the kids up on the way home from work, which also happened to be out of the way from where work and home was. It wasn't an easy task. My husband did help when he could in taking them to childcare and/or picking them up, but it didn't always work out. Plus, a mother is a mother and a dad is not a mother.
Thank you for sharing. Have a lovely day!
Greetings friend!!! How strong was that stage that you had so much responsibility, one feels that the day and hands are not enough to do so many things and be aware of everything😕.
And of course I understand you when you say that mother is mother, because when something happens to my baby she comes running to me.
It never hurts to reflect on topics like these😊.
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You are very welcome!🤗💜
La verdad no conocía el término de "Triple carga" a pesar de ser consciente de las múltiples responsabilidades que tienen sobre sus hombros las mujeres, pero es muy interesante. Muchas gracias por compartir tus reflexiones, conocimientos y experiencias al respecto, realmente me encantó tu post 👏🏻
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Es bastante interesante el término e invita a la reflexión sobre lo que conocemos convencionalmente. Te envío un saludo ☺️
Hace unos días leí como la triple carga ahora ha hecho que uno de las principales causas de la muerte en mujeres sea el infarto, causa que unas décadas atrás era mayormente para los hombres, entonces imagina el cambio que hasta los libros de medicina describen sólo los síntomas masculinos del infarto en su mayoría mientras que los síntomas en mujeres son cosas más estudiadas recientemente. Así que esa carga para nada es un juego, es algo que afecta totalmente a las mujeres.
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¡Qué interesante esa investigación! Quién podría imaginar que algo que está tan normalizado acaba afectando a nuestra salud. Leer sobre estos temas nos permite tomar conciencia y buscar llevar una vida sin toda esta sobrecarga de responsabilidad.
¡Saludos amiga!💕 ¡Gracias por comentar!
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La triple carga nos coloca en una desventaja tremenda frente a los hombres, y al final no es que los hijos sean cargas es que son una responsabilidad como tú lo dices pero una que pesa más en la madre tía o abuela que en los padres tíos y abuelos. Me gustó mucho tu post, saludos
Así es, los hijos son una responsabilidad de todos los días, al igual que las labores del hogar. Vale la pena tomarse un tiempo para reflexionar sobre estos temas que hoy en día buscan hacer conciencia y hacer que la distribución de tareas sea más equitativa. Gracias por leer mi post y comentar, un saludo 💕
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Interesante concepto, sobre todo donde no siempre el empoderamiento o libertad debería tener más trabajo o más carga
Si, realmente es un concepto interesante, recuerdo que lo ví en la universidad y cambio mi forma de pensar sobre lo que a veces creemos es empoderamiento, y es sobrecarga.
Gracias por leer mi post y comentar 😊