Joey thank you for reading and also sharing your story! I think that money and love and ultimatums about wealth don't go well together. True love feels safe , respectful and secure. I am aware that if we haven't learned secure emotional attachment in childhood it will be more difficult to pick the good ones, but not impossible. I believe you also worked tremendously on yourself if you can now share the story without feeling pain anymore. It shows maturity and I respect this . Going through homelessness is heartbreaking as the uncertainty is really unbearable, the feeling of not belonging to any place and being mostly alone in your suffering. But faith can and will shed some light. I think that it all happens for a reason and I can see my own role in everything I went through. Good and bad. I now realize how much inner work is still left to be done and I am grateful that I managed to get down and dirty and look what is inside my trauma and how to heal it.
I love the fairytale, it always ends well if it contains faith. Hugs and thanks so much for opening up and also reading me!
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I was so surprised to hear your story too, I've known you here for what feels like years. So, I feel like I know you and that soft cute voice. So, yeah, there is so much we can learn from our own childhood both good and bad.
I like what you are saying. It reminds me that people not only have IQ or intelligence quota but also EQ relating to the mastery over emotions, feelings, moods, communication, relationships, dialog, interpersonal conflict resolution skills, things crossing between emotional and spiritual matters. Oh, that reminds me, Yoda mentioned attachment in Star Wars.
So, some of the elements from our childhood can be left subconscious, subliminal, unaware, and especially unresolved. So, I do put some effort in analyzing my life and especially my childhood in order to analyze and break down the story but this time from an outside perspective.
The hard part can be in looking at things from an external paradigm or point of view while minimizing excessive bias governed by subjectivity within the realm and path towards insanity.
Good for you Joey that you take the time and effort to analyse everything, this is really important if we want to evolve. I know that it feels rather painful and that most of us would just like to bury it all and not "disturb the dead" , but looking in the dark corners of our souls can allow light to come through. It's hard, it is really hard. Now that I went through it (and the peal off process has just begun and will continue) I no longer blame anyone for not doing the process when I would believe they should. Each person has their own timing and we can never know what is in one person's soul so being gentle and kind is really the way to go. We learn this. I know that the path towards myself is always under construction and I am hopeful that more people will want to try inner management as knowing yourself is the only real thing we ever need. To know and to love ourselves for who we are.
Mary, yeah yeah and I also dig into my life because I am interested in studying psychology, anthropology, sociology. I try to help people. So, I try to understand the good and the bad of how people develop in life. So, I'm not going to say I don't try to study how humans evolve throughout their lives, because I do do that too. That is science. That is good for doctors, scientists, pastors, counselors, other people.
But at the same time, I am also looking at my life as a reference point, a starting point, a foundation, be it too subjective in nature or not, be it too bias as it is me looking at myself. So, it could become counterproductive, too bias, too subjective, too corrupt, etc, to study oneself. So, I always keep all of those things in mind.
We can learn from each other. So, I feel like people can learn from my life. It can also be fun to look back at my life. It can also be like a mystery. Like, I am exploring a deep hidden cave. Maybe there are things I've forgotten about which perhaps should be uncovered. But I'm not saying go into the caves and maze of one's own mind and get lost there for too long. Come back out every once in a while to get some beautiful sunshine hehehe.
Mary, like you said, I agree, we can let light shine into the darkness, into the caves of our lives. Yeah, timing is a thing I would try to rush at times. So, I learn patience, timing, endurance, perspective. Yeah, be kind, gentle, and aware. Be relevant. Be ready. To love oneself is a beautiful thing.
Knowing and then loving yourself for who you are means not getting lost in who you are not. It can become problematic when people don't know who they are, what they are, where they are, for better or for worse. It is so critical for people to start with where they are which is rooted in where they were, especially if they are interested in where they are going.
Inner management can be tricky and yet it can start with the seed of curiosity. So, we should start off small in the pursuit towards increased inner management. But it can feel like an overwhelming endeavor which leaves people idle. So, my advice is to simply take a peak at a one thing at a time every once in a while. Mentally, that can be the trick, to let curiosity get a foot in that door of inner management. One day at a time, one slice or piece of the pie at a time.
You've talked about self love and awareness so beautifully in this comment! I believe that indeed we can learn from all people we meet, good or bad. It took me a while to learn this lesson and I am constantly improving. May we all become better versions of ourselves today than what we were yesterday!
Loving oneself includes being brutally and severely honest as a starting point.
Oh Joey you've hit the nail on the head with this statement! Being honest, truly honest, might be painful for our ego as usually it means to assume responsibility for whatever crappy situation you are in. No matter the circumstance we always play the biggest role in what happened to us, next to our childhood mental programming and our biases. I work on being honest with myself as much as I can and I think that this is one of the key ingredients to a happier self. Honesty and assuming responsibility
Bingo.