30th of October 2021. I wake up in the morning very early as usual around 6 a.m. Sometimes I feel fresh around 4 a.m. Anyway as soon as I open my eyes I smile. I am alive. I am quick to rise from my bed, say my prayers, meditate and follow my routine. Today is different. I washed my beautiful curly hair, I looked in the mirror at my lioness mane and I realized: I’m going to delete my personal Facebook.
You might ask yourself: but why? Why now? Why today?
In the last year my life was filled with all sorts of events. If you follow me on Hive you might be aware of some of them. If you don’t, do not worry, it is not relevant for you to know my life in order to understand this post. The idea is that I have grown significantly on a spiritual level, significantly meaning I just started to scratch the surface of my soul. My level of awareness increased after going through many painful experiences. I am sure that you will relate to this as pain can be the greatest catalyst for change. I am 31 years old and I started to think about my life and my choices more thoroughly this year. I had the time, the knowledge, the impulse. I looked at my own choices in the quest for self-understanding.
Random thought in my mind: have we all been putting on a show on social media?
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I remember creating my Facebook account when everybody else already had one and somehow I felt I was missing out. The usual FOMO grabbed me by the neck and slowly suffocated a sense of individuality. The novelty weared off but still somehow watching other people’s lives can be addictive. I can understand very well now how many people would literally suffer if something would happen with their personal Facebook account. You can find a sense that you matter there. Or shall I say that you find your illusion ?
I remember posting on that platform when I was happy, I remember posting when I was sad. Only the happy posts went through, the sadness was swept under the rug. I rarely came across someone admitting they were sad in real life. Sad is not cool on Facebook, show us that filtered glam look! I have met people in reality who were miserable, unhappy, oozing a stench of hatred, arrogance and envy. On Facebook they had angel wings and they were spreading little hearts and hugs. If the Devil was to pick a platform this would be it as there is no easier place to fool and lure people into not being their true self.
Facebook and similar social media platforms are made to create a show for the masses. I think about the elders and those who made it through 50+ years of happy marriage. They used to have pictures taken and put in a physical album. They would keep this journal of love and show it to their closest friends, to those who they felt they deserved the access. You put a photo on Facebook and you have 3000 people possibly looking at the love of your life. How did we accept this as being ok? How sharing intimate photos and moments from your life with random strangers (who most likely don’t give a damn if you are happy or sad) has turned into a source of happiness?
I am a very discrete person. I like my privacy and I make friends quite slowly as I feel I need the time to get to know someone and let time test their character. I prefer quality over quantity. I do not have a big circle and I plan to keep it this way. I do not believe in staged shows, I believe in actions and in consequences. I do not believe in happy photos, I believe in real hugs and gestures of love.
Random thought: Did you hear about the Flintsones? They looked so happy together on Facebook, I can’t believe they got divorced and he hates her guts.
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When it comes to a sense of belonging we are social creatures. We would do anything to belong to a group and to feel that we are included. Look at what is happening with this pandemic. People create sides and you must pick your shot if you want to have access. Literally. Divide and conquer is a classic scheme for manipulating big crowds. Social media makes no exception to the rule. I often wondered how many people from Facebook lists actually care about the soul of the people online. I am skeptical to believe that you can actually be friends with 5000 people. If this would be true then no one would commit suicide or feel depressed when so many friends are up for grabs. Let’s be real. Count your true friends now. Is one hand enough? Good, then this means that at least when you are alone you are not deluding yourself. Real close intimate friendships are rare. This is what makes them special. Your soul is not a piece of meat that you can throw around to hungry wolves in hopes they will hug it instead of shredding it to pieces. Looking back at my life and the way I interacted with this platform I realize this: real life is so much better and fulfilling and nothing of what happened on Facebook ever really mattered.
I think about the individuals who are stubborn enough to keep their ex-es in their lists just to feel a sense of importance. Often they miss out real life opportunities because they want to look cool on Facebook hiding the fact that they have failed in setting boundaries and closing the doors of the past. They feed with the crumbles they get from the people from their past. If you were to be sick tomorrow, how many of those people would come and feed you a bowl of damn soup? I think about the women who posted pictures with their husbands as if they were actually in love. I remember walking in those couple’s houses and feeling the tension in the air: the love was long gone , all they had was Facebook! I don’t think there is anything more sad than to feed yourself a sense of love from virtual photos rather than working on the real life relationship so you could actually have REAL love! I think about all the likes people throw back and forth just because they believe that if they don’t, they will be forgotten or ignored. A thumb up to define your place in a person’s life? Do we have so little to offer?
The idea is that few people realize the fakeness of the platform while using. Once you take the time to get off of it and maybe discover blockchain, then you realize the madness. Clinging to what was, no matter if it is about ex-es, family, lovers, versus what could be, is absolute craziness. But people do it because the past is so alluring. Getting out in real life and taking responsibility for your own happiness or misery is harder. I can imagine an utopic Universe where everybody sits in front of a screen and living their life there. Nothing goes in, nothing goes out. Zombies who numbed themselves until they can’t feel their own soul anymore.
Random thought: our picture received 200 hearts. Wow! I can’t believe that people think we actually love each other!
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Real life is tough and great in the same time. Managing it with ups and downs is not easy. A social platform like Facebook is an escape. You can pretend you are anybody there. You can pretend that you are happy, that you feel accomplished, that your family loves you and that you have an awesome time being yourself. When you turn it off, your soul knows how much bullshit you have spread. You sit with yourself and you have two choices: you decide to make some changes or you turn on Netflix and see what’s on. Since the discovery of Hive last year I have gradually lost interest in posting on Facebook. I no longer saw the purpose to share my personal life there only to get incentive for my ego. I can understand the use of Facebook for business but not for personal. Blockchain gives you rewards and you can talk with people who actually read your post. Facebook does none of that.
I wonder about the last time you or I had a real life hug from a person from Facebook. Think about this: when was the last time someone gave you a hug and they meant it? Is your mom or dad giving you little thumbs ups? Is your sister or brother eager to give you the first like? Good. How does this translate in real life? How much love are you receiving in real life from these people?
It’s ok to be sad now. We both know the answer.
I no longer want to be in a staged show with people who are not authentic with themselves. This includes me and everybody else I choose to give access to in my life. I know that most people who play it happy on Facebook are in fact sad. I know that many of those so called friendships are shallow and not fulfilling spiritually. I know that happiness is something we have to experience for real, not in the form of likes, thumbs up and hearts. I know that in times of distress a real hug, a kiss, a talk, a holding hand can do so much more than a fake post. I have discovered blockchain and there is no going back from there. I know that the friendships I have developed on Hive have a greater possibility of becoming real than what I have experienced on Facebook. I know that I must close the doors of the past in order to enjoy the present and welcome the future. I know that love is something that we feel and do, not something we should fake. I can sniff a person who is sad and pretending because I have been there, in that place of self-delusion. I can only wish more people to have a morning like mine: a morning when you woke up to your true self knowing that the best is yet to come.
Long-live blockchain and real-life hugs & love! They are the best!
Have a great day and toodle loo!
Deleting my old Instagram profile and staying away from Social media for 3 months, right when we got into lockdown last year, was one of the best decisions I have made and getting back to it was one of the worst.
I feel like it's so easy to fall into this trap of creating a fake online persona just to make ourselves feel better for literally two seconds before reality kicks is. Filling up a void, wanting to get recognition or validation by number of likes, presenting only the highlights of our lives can be very dangerous for mental health. Now when the time of the influencers, crazy filters and show off is at its peak, it makes things even worse.
I am always in conflict with Social media, especially Instagram as I like to take photos and share them but since I have become aware of how fake and unrealistic Social media is, it's hard to look at it as a creative, fun outlet.
This post really made me do a check-in with myself and my online presence and I just want to say thank you for this amazing writing and insight. I am looking forward to read more of your posts and I wish you a great weekend! :)
Hey! I congratulate you for your time off period, giving up social media can be a challenge for many. Going back...well...once you know it is not real you can no longer fake it nor do you want to be part of it again .
Our online presence does not matter as much as our real presence. In the end what happens in real life is what matters
Thank you for reading, blessings!
My life also get better without facebook or instagram. uninstall it is the best choice that i made
Good for you! I feel much better without Facebook , the fact that I no longer have to scroll throught the fake lives of others feels very good
I happen to be one of those elders you speak of. It's funny that you mention how we oldtimers would keep account of our lives via scrapbooks.
I have been happily married for 47 years now and remain so.
Last week my wife visited our son who now lives in the home where he was brought up.
We sold him our home and moved to Upstate New York. We had left boxes filled with so many photos of our lives together in the basement.
Well, we finally got around to collecting the remainder of our stuff.
For the past week, we have been enjoying the memories kindled by all of those old photos.
The only social media account that I have ever been involved with is #hive.
I got started because our son suggested that documenting on the blockchain, what goes on here at the farm, would be a wonderful way to allow future generations to get a better understanding of where they came from, our interests, our values and the importance we place have always placed on family.
I also enjoy my privacy and that is the main reason I now live in an area void of people. Because of the fact that we have four children and now have a family including seven grandchildren I may need two hands to count the # of people who would come to feed me a bowl of soup. True friends are far and few between, relationships that have stood the test of time.
I have a saying, no new friends, and the reason for that attitude is that authentic folk are hard to come by and the last thing I have time for is bullshit.
5,000 friends, who in their right mind think that is even possible. The clock is ticking and the time that is left on my ever-burning candle will be spent wisely, interacting with the very small circle of people that are invested in me and I in them.
I really enjoyed this read!
Have a wonderful day.
Hey! 47 years of marriage...wooohooo, my hats off to you, this is admirable🥳🥳
Family albums and photos are great and going through those in a physical form is the best way to keep that memory alive. I remember going to my grandmother and having her leather albums filled with pictures amaze my eyes. Black and white photos. That vintage look. That fashion. That hair. Priceless. A digital photo album will never have the same charm as the old dusty paper albums .
A box filled with family photos can be considered heirloom, the best legacy.
Having a retreat in the countryside is one of my dreams in old age. I can understand the need for silence now as I crave it more and more.
You have done yourself and your family a great favor by being here on the blockchain. You think of future generations learning from what you share here. Beautiful!
Time is money they say. But I dare to tell that time is more valuable than money as you can't get lost time back. I value time too enormously. This is why I prefer Hive, I feel it is worth my time from all points of view.
I loved reading your lovely comment, thank you🤗
Said exactly like you see it, yes the old photo albums well documented with dates, places some losing colour, memories don't fade fortunately.
Feels like yesterday taking the soup to friends fallen ill, now all gone. Still have siblings and family being ones foundation.
Childhood friends living across the ocean FB presented only connection with a few folk I phone when opportunity avails itself. Agree this showing photos of each other to a point of crazy, or morning cup of coffee to make some outlet rich? Now like a butterfly you flutter in, chat to those who do count and carry on with real life.
Time is ticking... for everyone, so glad @creativemary saw through this whilst still young, live life to the full, too soon golden years appear!
I like looking at old photos which have dates written on their back, there is a poetic romantic charm to it.
I guess it is never too late to make changes. Time is a valuable treasure , I have just started to grasp the significance of spending it wisely with the right people and in the right places. Would it be fair to say that it had cost me time to understand how valuable time is?
It is never too late.
Often take time to go through old photographs, even write about the trips here in Hive where I have never had the inclination to do previously, re-living moments!
Time; a poem my father gave me years ago....
Very poignant poem.
The sooner one comes to realize just how fast time ticks by the better off one will be.
When we are young we feel invincible and pay little attention to the passing of days, which turn into weeks, months, and years.
To capture an understanding of this early on is so very difficult to do in a world that is so hectic.
Most only realize too late how much time slipped through their fingers, only later we start counting and nurturing each day.
My parents both gave us poetry or quotes to remember when young always reminding us not to waste the little time we have, life is strange, I have placed them onto special pictures found to enjoy and remember them, now time slowly catches up with us all!
It sure does and the only way to make sure that it doesn't catch up to us too early is to stay active, both mentally and physically.
Your parents were so poetic, that is quite rare nowadays
So true! I remember in my teens that I used to sit with friends and sip a coffee for hours. Just slacking and letting time pass by. With the mind that I have now I would not be even tempted to repeat this habit again unless I would feel that it could bring some sort of value in my life.
What a great poem, I liked it a lot. It reminds me to appreciate every day, every minute. I can truly understand now that time is indeed the most valuable thing we have in our possesion. Thank you for sharing it!
Keep healthy with an active mind, take each minute given as one more than expected, enjoy life to the full wherever one lives.
Beautiful🤗
Its actually a free world and anything one could do whatever they want to do. Hive is the real deal. Thanks for the comment.
I have not used or loged in Facebook a years 👌👌👌 I not kive my postst for them no more, I know they steal our information, information they don't really have a right to.... and sad thing is they also sell it and we not get nothing from this info.. we get just big 0 and mentally raped mind.
Instagram app is just open, so if someone want ask what coins are, or how Hive & Ecency works. Also some times I take one random user every month from there and I try make so she or he comes in Hive. 👌 but thats all, my all posts come up in Hive and I'm 1000 % more happy to post here then this old pages out there what just steal and nothing more.
Also my Twitter is close what did twitter not me 😆😆 so fuck them also I not need them too. It is years I have not used it. 😆👌👌👌💪 and now I put all my e-mail system out from google too, I not like there fake world also. 👌👌👌💪
Yeah I barely use Facebook nowadays and if it wasn't for video messaging with my family across the country I would have deleted it at this point.
Good for you! You have control over your time and this is vital!
I did last move ...thank you that you maid me push it to do more fast , and not to wait more long 🤗👌👌👌 my Instagram is End now and I not use Twitter no Facebook or Instagram boom all cone 🙌🙌
Yaaaayyy!!! Congratulations🥳🥳🥳🥳
Very true :)
Oh, it's not that here on Hive are only authentic posts from honest people.
How it is on Facebook - I don't know, I've never had an account.
My VR goggles have one ;-) and that's only because I need them for the HiveFest (thanks @roelandp)
When it comes to hugs, you've really missed a lot by not attending HiveFests (in pre-Hive and pre-Covid era) ;-)
I agree. On every platform there will be some rotten apples. On some the whole tree is junk. You did not miss anything , on the contrary, you definetely gained more by staying away from it .
I joined Hive a year ago and only then I have found out about blockchain technology. I was quite a noob.
I dream about attending a real life HiveFest. Somewhere in Europe. I would love to meet in real life the folks I have bonded with in here.
I agree with a lot of your sentiments. I've found a place I can be more real in Hive, and I must admit I'm glad none of my facebook friends or family members are on this platform because that would lead to self-censorship.
Yes , this is the way I have felt for a long time. I have put more of my real self in here in a year than in years of using Facebook. I am also glad that I am here on my own, with no traces of relatives. I feel like in a safe coccoon where I can spread my wings and fly
Facebook, for me, is a way to keep in touch with the friends and relatives I rarely see, and I probably open it once a day. It's not a place for opinions. I have never been interested in pretentious people, and yes, the odd one reveals themselves there (and you can mute them) but it's more interesting to watch the people that make or do interesting things. And during lockdown, when I was in Australia, I had a few senior friends tell me how much they enjoyed my photos, so I felt like I was doing some community service, but I also pointed a few to Hive for more photos and more in depth articles. Still, Facebook is creepy and you know they sell your data and they are trying to profile every one of us.
I did not feel that I have made any bond on Facebook. I often noticed people wanting to add other people just to spy or have something to comment about their lives. It is a scroll through place with little care about people's emotions. What was more disturbing was the massive difference between online and real life. Some people were plain straight deluding themselves and others on Facebook . Their real self was totally different. Overall I felt more anxious and uncomfortable there than in here
Facebook is pretty much for my family now. I don't interact regularly with anyone else. I dropped everyone on my list except for lifelong friends and my immediate family. I just think that place is too crazy otherwise.
Well this is a good way of limiting your time spent in there. Keeping just family is cool, I would not see any reasons for wanting to share private photos with anybody else
Exactly. Also, the places I've worked at use platforms like Facebook to search for material that goes against company policy. Even if you restrict material to prevent non-friends from viewing a lot of times you can find that data from regular Google searches.
Another reason to stay off of it.
I took a slightly different approach. I found with the Facebook app running on my phone , I would check Facebook throughout the day. This was beginning to be a time waster, So i decided to check FB once in the morning and then remove my account from the phone app. The LG phone i have came with FB pre-installed and it can not be uninstalled. Which is strange to me , but i found by signing after out after each use. I gain so much of my life back.
Facebook is a time eating machine. Spying on other peoples' lives or just plain scrolling can easily make 1 hour pass. By the end of the week there could be 10 or 20 hours wasted. No gain. No reward. No emotional connection. Just anxiety and stress. People post only what they think is nice. There is no authenticity there. Waste of time. Compared to blockchain and Hive, Facebook is nothing.
I bet my Facebook account is dying because of finding Blockchain and knowing that I can be anyone here without being judge
I find it difficult to publish on my Facebook page these days. I am one person who had been addicted to that blue app
I basically just take small breaks by going through people's feed. I am sure my algorithm has changed since I barely post on my page.
It's okay though.... Finding happiness in the midst of small numbers is better than faking joy in crowds.
It is sure dying lol. And that's good because you get no value from the time spent there. Authentic joy is the most important, fakeness can only work for so long until it drains youbof energy
Thanks for stopping by🤗
Absolutely
My pleasure 🙂
I know where you're coming from, @creativemary, and admire your courage to try to lead a more authentic life. Truth is, once anyone is watching, we do tend to perform our lives and, in turn, cheat ourselves of real growth. Some platforms are more dangerous than others in this regard -- I think of Instagram, for example, with its celebration of the skin of things: selfies, selfies, selfies...
Hope your decision to rid yourself of Facebook give you more time to contribute to your development as an artist and person, and that we (here on Hive) are the beneficiaries of this. Blessings 🙏🌟
Amen! This decision brought me more peace and time. I no longer want to be in places with no authenticity, including the online environment. On a spiritual level I feel the need to just be myself and spend time where I like it and with who I like it. Hive is my first blockchain love and it is my first choice. I have met gorgeous people here when it comes to spirituality. Thank you so much for stopping by! I have printed your book, I shall soon start to read it!
Grateful for your affirmation, friend, and agree with what you say. I think part of spiritual maturity is to care less and more at the same time. To be selective with how you spend your breath and attention, both of which are precious. I wish you what I wish myself, breakthroughs and transformation. Stay blessed, sister Mary, and I look forward to learning how my books affects you. Peace, Yahia
Thank you Yahia! Greetings and hugs from Romania🤗
Right back at you, from Florida :D
I still keep The Facebook account only because all my real life friends and family are there and have not discovered the alternatives just. I keep it just to have contact. I never post or read as I have long since discovered the things you discussed here.
The worst thing about The Facebook are the algorithms working in the background to control what you see and feel. The concept of Social media is not all bad. It is the companies who control IT and don't care about the harm they are cause in their quest for profit.
With The Facebook trying to rebrand itself to Meta. I find it very tragic. It is only because they want to control the future of social interactions while trying to distance themselves from the crimes of the past. This most unfortunate thing is that they because of the damage they have already done to society this process of putting makeup on a pig will probably work.
A pig with make-up is still a pig. I am sure that with time more people will see the futility of being on platforms which do not provide real value for their users. Depression is on the rise and yet everybody is happy on social media. If people would feel heard and understood things would change .
Facebook can be good and useful/helpful sometimes, but many people share too much personal information with Facebook. I still use Facebook to contact mainly relatives and friends (mostly by text chat). I also read certain groups (I very rarely write into these groups). Facebook can be a good source of information, if used properly.
Yes, it can be a source of information for sure. It is just not for me. Thank you for stopping by!
Great introspective piece. I used Facebook a total of one time when it arrived in 2006 or so. Then I realized it wasn't for me. Too much drama. It was one of the best decisions ever.
Thank you! Yes, there is drama there and it costs you time to be part of it. I felt that if you spend too much time there you get hooked and contaminated with the false sense of belonging that the platform gives. Congrats for not being part of it either and thanks for stopping by!
I applaud you! I haven't used any other social media site in so long, I cannot remember the dates.
I left my Facebook account open, as with Insta and Twitter and Voice. I am not sure why I haven't deleted them as they aren't on my phone either, so I forget I have them. I stopped using them on a regular basis when I joined Hive. Funny, I was tired of answering comments that were huggy/kissy/love you/ Who? Me? I don't even know you! I wouldn't think of putting things on Facebook that were personal. I am deeply personal and do not openly share things on social media. Here? It's different, although, I still guard my personal life and my circle is small, but, I truly admire those in it.
You are a brilliant writer, someone able to translate feelings into writing, almost seamlessly. Hard or easy, it is always such a learning experience to come here and hear your voice as you read, take in your words and dissect them for further review, or just to enjoy a piece.
Thank you and for what it is worth, you did the best thing. And consider this how much. ❤️ :)) Thank God that is over for most of us.
Have a wonderful Sunday!
Thank you Denise! After many years of seeing how much people lied on Facebook in regards to their well being I no longer felt necessary to attend the show. It is sad to see so many people hiding their true self, keeping people in their list that they don't even like, pretending to be happy when in fact they are crying inside. I just think it is better to be a part from an online community which is more authentic.I feel like I am at home on Hive. I would not want to share my personal musings anywhere else.
Thank you for your appreciation and your kind word, I send you a big hug 🤗🤗
welcome to the club
Happy to be there at last! Once you go blockchain you never go back
oh. my. goodness.
I'm the same way - I think our sad is a beautiful gift because I can FEEL it in another person, even if they hide.
I've often been asked "how did you do that?" when everyone else is kinda wandering around - smiling - joking - under the mask i see and feel that pain. tangibly.
because I know it. and i can see it in the eyes and feel it through my body.
I hated the pain I went through - but what a silver lining to be able to help heal others - right???
@galenkp and I were just talking about this the other day... how toxic facebook is and how much HAPPIER we are without it. I deleted mine in 2017. (i needed to reactivate it for a short season for something... that ended up not even being worth the irritation LOL) it went right back on deactivation hahahahaha
I'm so glad that you came to my post to connect with me - and now here I am coming to connect with you and I'm already addicted.
can't wait to read more from you - and yes.... I'm the same way about the sad. We don't have to display it to everyone but we don't have to hide it from everyone either. In the right moments, being genuine and vulnerable connects hearts beyond the sad. love this post :)
Thanks so much! You are a veteran, I congratulate you for giving up Facebook for so long. It is a show of the sad in there most of the cases. I mean I knew some of the people from my list in real life. They were plain lying on Facebook, pretending to be happy and peaceful when the truth was that they were miserable and a bad company to be around in real life. At a point it becomes disturbing to see that people consider it normal and almost necessary to pretend. The amount of time invested in maintaining that false online image was shocking. Hours and hours, dozens of happy photos.....and the real relationships were far away from the "happy show". So yeah I don' t want to see that anymore. I want authenticity and people who can deal with their own misery and fix it in real life. After all we are only born once so lying to yourself for years just to please others is an insult at the divine gift of life which was given to us
Thanks so much for reading🤗🤗
Hello dear @creativemary!
Reading your work is extremely captivating. You are truly creative and your sincerity comes out in every line you write.
Your publications are like a kind of virtual reality, where you make all of us feel your joys and sorrows as if we were living it ourselves.
You have a great talent and I am very happy for you.
Long live @creativemary on HIVE.
Big hug
Hey! Oh I am very grateful for your words, thank you so much! I am blessed to have the talent to express my feelings in writing. And I am humbled that people appreciate and feel empowered by my writings.
Hugs and have a great week🤗
You have nothing to thank @creativemary for! Not only do you have the talent to put into words what you feel, but you are one of the great artists that HIVE has.
You are a diamond in the rough and have great potential!
May nothing and no one ever stop you!
Hugs from Argentina!
I wonder why I still have a Facebook account 😒
Good question! Only you have the answer and also the solution
And no looking back! This was (almost) me 18 months ago. I had been debating the purpose of FB for months - same reasons you give. And then I set myself a date. I was so excited when "The Day" arrived and I could delete FB. It steals from you. It doesn't enrich you. Enjoy your freedom @creativemary!
Hey! Congratulations to you too, I am more than happy to join the club, I have been feeling this for a long time
It's your decision and no one can say you're wrong. Personal decisions should be respected. It's obvious that once you were there and on the 30th of October you left, the reason is better known to you and I respect your decision. Although Facebook is still useful to most us. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you! I feel very good about my decision, I feel better without!
I wonder how many more will follow your lead in the not-so-distant future. However, what is your thoughts on people who use facebook and other social media platforms for business and personal use? Do you think there is a world where both can exist without being or appearing to be fake?
I feel that many will feel like I do. At a certain point it is no longer fulfilling to pretend.
For a business any platform can be of great use. I can't say it is wrong to use it for business because I strongly believe in the power of social media for making money. When it comes to ethics...well..we all know that not everything is as seen on TV or on Facebook. But this is a choice that every brand makes. For personal use I would go blockchain. For business I would be all over the place.
Huge step, @creativemary. I'm thinking of doing the same soon.
Thank you! I hope you do, you will feel so much better after!
This was a powerful post. As I am a slightly older Facebook user, I do have more real friends there, but I had scaled my usage back to just interacting with them and making business connections while putting much more of my time in over here, so when I upgraded my phone, I left FB off of it and just check in on desktop for a few minutes a day ... to see this conscious exposition of a complete journey away from FB is really a revelation!
Hey! Thank you very much! My exposure to Facebook gradually decreased since I discovered Hive. Meeting people in real life who were completely different from what they posted on facebook convinced me of the fact that the platform is not for me. Too much fakeness, almost nobody is honest there, it is sad and actually depressing and lonesome to watch that and have real life confirmation
Facebook is dead.
That's all!
Amen!
Your decision is a genuine one and I value it. Do you know that I rarely log into Facebook since I joined hive. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you! The impulse came from my heart. I know that many people will do this when they will truly feel that Facebook has nothing to offer on a spiritual level
I am rarely using my personal facebook account since joining Hive. I lost interests on posting on Facebook since 2019 as I realised there was no real reactions on my posts any more. Lots of judgement in a simple post. One day while reading through my feed, I started judging other posts and what they do as well. That was when I know I am not gonna use it any more. Together with the mess FB sell our data and behavior for others to use and manipulate us, I am also sick of it. Thats why when I heard about Hive, I got hooked.
Another thing I dislike about FB is its promoting fake news as it will drive users engagement. What a unethical (to users) and cruel (to victims) way to do that.
Anyway I see we share the same pattern at this time of our lives. When I turn 30, I like to spend time alone and think about stuff going on around me. When I feel something bother me, I like to be just with me to check on my feelings. Unlike before, I ignored it and get outside to find something fun. Now I believe In my inner self and the real happiness comes from inside.
Thank you for sharing your life with us and thank you for trusting us enough to do so. All the best. Cheers, Dora
Hello Dora! Your comment was a wonderful read for me, thank you!
It is interesting what you have said about judging. Now that I think about it, I recall doing the same sometimes. It is easy to get corrupted if you sit in one place too long , including online.
It is beautiful that you realized that happiness comes from the inside. I have been in that place when I searched an escape from going within: I was an workaholic, trying to fill the time so it would numb my soul and make me forget about my sadness. It took some life lessons to bring me back in a centered spiritual place. I am so grateful for my journey and I make constant efforts to remain conscious and in tune with my emotions.
I trust Hive with details from my personal life, it is the only place where it feels safe and real
Hugs from Romania🤗
Now you mentioned it I was a workaholic too. I love my job and I want to prove my ability to do the work better than others. So I sometimes spent my days off to do my job. However, too much of screen times made my body and mind tiring and ache. Not balancing my life was a mistake as I miss many great things. Since then, I learn to take care of my mental health and wellbeing.
I believe you are an excellent student, thats why life gives you a harder lesson to learn. Congratulations on the new journey of life and for all the brave thing you did to yourself. I am so glad to 'meet' you here. Have a lovely Sunday. Lots of hugs from NZ.
It was that saying that God gives you only what you can handle .Now I understand these words better although when I was in the moment I had flashes of despair. Maybe only through pain conscioussness awakens
It was lovely to read your comments, hugs to you too Dora from lovely Romania🤗
Facebook has really consumed a big chunk of time, especially now that we are doing classes online. Adding to this, social media platforms in general have affected my sleeping and studying habits. Reading this post has made me realize some serious stuff I need to change especially regarding my Facebook use. Though I cannot delete Facebook like you did, I will limit my use and spend time here on Hive instead.
I am happy that my article made you think things through and I hope that you will continue to spend more time on Hive instead of spending it on Facebook!
Yes I will!
Awesome!
Welcome to the world without Facebook. You'll not regret getting rid of it I think.
Thank you G.!🤗🤗🤗 I feel so much better believe me. I have had more genuine conversations with people from Hive than I ever had on Facebook. No way I will ever regret .
What I desire now is to be able someday to meet Hive members in real life. No masks, no social distancing. Plain old school one on one.
Maybe there'll be a Hive meetup you can get to in the future. You know HiveFest VR is on again this year, it cold be a good substitute.
Have you ever attended a real one G .? I saw many posts with a community of Hiveians from Cebu. Gosh those meet on a regular basis, so freaking cool😍🤩
We have one monthly here, have done for three years now. Sometimes up to 23 people.
Awwwww so cool🤩🤩
The thing about Facebook is that it would be brilliant if it weren't for the 'friends' part.
So, the FB account I actually use has no friends, but yet still allows me to be in all the brilliant groups and communities and on pages that genuinely interest me without me having to talk to anyone I actually know. It's genius!
Have a great weekend. Choose when and whom you speak to! :-)
Hey! Well your alternative is pretty business and to the point, I can understand why and how it works for you. I am definetely keeping and raising my standards when it comes to whom I choose to speak. Time is more precious to me than anything else.
Thank you for reading me! Blessings!
Don't worry dear, Soon these all web 2.0 sites will be disappered once the masses aware of blockchain where freedom is empowered and power given back to users .
Facebook is just a crap and nonsense where fake and show off is the key drive strategy for business . Fb is now nothing more than business where your shared contents are negotiated for marketing and promotion of the products.
I totally agree. It is all just a matter of time until this happens. Thanks for stopping by!
Yay! 🤗
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Congrats! I also "deleted" FB a week ago, but guess there are 3 more weeks before it is finally gone for good:)
Yaaaayyy!🥳🥳🥳Congratulations to you too, we made the best decision! I hope more people will follow and realize that spending time on that platform is futile and damaging for the soul.
That's a good decision you take.
Staying away from social media saves so much energy. I deleted my insta long before. But can't do FB for some job-related work. Try my best to stay away. Also, it gives us so much information, we peek into others' life unnecessarily that we forget to live our own.
Congratulations on your action.
Thank you very much!
!LUV !PIZZA Oh I am happy that Dreems reblogged your post. I love authenticity and heartfelt words. I still have my Facebook account but I don't post there much. I do enjoy it for keeping in touch with my cousins and other family on the other side of the world and for the odd laugh. I agree with you though that since I found Hive, my time is now spent so much better. Of course I still have the IRL time I give to my IRL family, but when the night hours get long, and the kids are in bed, Hubster is on the VR or his laptop, I am often-times up writing or curating and it fulfills me, far more than FB ever did, but my profile is set to private so I don't share my posts or photos publicly anyway. I do find that the engagement is far far less on FB though.
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Your story is very interesting sis @creativemary.
I deleted my personal social media Facebook, Twitter and Instagram permanently on May 20, 2020.
Of the three social media. I joined Facebook while still in high school in 2009. Then this September I re-created a new Twitter account due to linking with hive/peakd :)
Thank you! Blessings!