Are we less courteous today?
Is human decency gone?
A pleasant day y'all amazing people!
While taking a break from some errands today, I started scrolling my phone. Reading. Checking. Thinking. Contemplating. Stumbled at some awesome articles. I hopped to the other side of social media's fence. I came across on a post I had on Facebook a few years back. It was an article I posted on one blogging site called Bubblews. In my article, I had a friend who posted something like "spammy emails", and there, she described how she had over a hundred spammy emails from one person. Guess what? Those emails were an apology from the sender for sending so many. Now, spam is irritating no doubt! But I credit that person for apologizing, all the same, most people wouldn't take the time.
Is Human Decency Gone? Did it surrender the great battle? Is it being held prisoner by social media? When did we turn out to be so withdrawn from our own conduct with such heartlessness toward everyone around us? Have we gotten so lost in an other reality altering, separating and causing our lives to show up undeniably more beautiful than they truly are? Have we gotten so enveloped with our very own air pocket of 'need' that we can't pause and be thankful for all that we have?
Questions. Questions. Questions. Becoming numb to this present reality is a perilous diversion.
Here in the Philippines, people are very hospitable. If you know someone or are a guest in their home, the hosts are extremely courteous, outgoing, and polite.
In public though, it seems everyone worries about themselves and doesn't reach out to help others. They rarely or don't say "thank you" or "please". Ever. I cannot tell you how many times I have held a door open for someone and they will walk through without ever making eye contact as if I was hired as a door employee or something.
I may look snob and mean at times lol, but I was raised being polite, kind, and courteous to others. I do recall always being told "thank you" for holding a door, or told "excuse me" if someone needs to get by or something. My daughter is now 9 years old and when she was only a few months old, I tried to get her used to hearing "thank you" and "please". Now, I can't count how many times she says those words in a day lol. When raising our kids, we are their examples, and what they will mimic the most. We have to be responsible and teach our children how to be courteous when they are little. After all, you show respect for yourself by respecting and appreciating others.
Are We Less Courteous Today?
Based on what I am seeing and experiencing, I think this generation is becoming so liberal. Kids are not shown what we called "good manners and right conduct". Regardless of whether schools covered things like habits and regard, it would not be sufficient. There is a solid feeling of qualification among kids today, and they just defend themselves by putting others down. They can't partake in conversations without transforming them into irate showdowns. Really! "I'm raging!" Yet, they are not the first. I think this has been deteriorating through the years. If the kids don't have great good examples, it is exceptionally difficult for them to learn habits and basic manners. It is feasible to conquer this hole in their background by perusing and blending in with individuals who are affable and deferential. A lot of parents today are interested only with themselves (again, based on what I've seen - not judging), their self-worth and stuff like those, which their kids imitate as well. Kids are drenched in the possibility that habits and regard have no importance.
There should be a setting or context why this is occurring. Generally, socialization has changed. Parents are done teaching good manners. The society celebrates a culture that incorporates being discourteous, rude and so on. The other explanation that young people of today are at this point not pleasant is that, they feel disengaged and that the old generation has bombed them.
So, what is your opinion of people being considerate? Do you think people are more considerate, less considerate or about same as 20-30-40 years ago?
Leaving that question for you, guys. Now, going back to my corner! Have a good day wherever you are!
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September 20, 2022 11:30am PST
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When i was a child we were taught to use ma'am and sir period we are also supposed to hold doors and be polite period. This world is not what it was before and I don't believe it will return to that level of polite society again. But at least your teaching your child and I taught mine and my grands!
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What's the magical word? Is it "abracadabra"? "Shazam!"?
"Please" and "thank you", they're the magical words -- then, now, always. It's sad though how people rarely use them in this day and age.
Kpag may mga kalaro mga anak ko that comes across as impolite, I really call him out. I say we don't tolerate those kinds of words or unkindly behavior in our home.
LOL to this. Sad, but true.
Ako pa nahiya tuloy sa kanila, sis! Kaya pag ganun, sasabihin ko in a very sarcastic tone, "You're welcome!!!!" lol
I don't think we're less courteous or less decent than the people of past-times. We might be a bit more stressed, and a bit more busy, but people are generally as kind and as lovely as they've always been.
Could be! Thanks for the thoughts, @aussieninja and have a good one!!
We were all with a quality of being courteous, kind, and humble. But over the years, although it was embedded in our being, we still change. What I love about our culture is we are truly courteous and until now, it has been a practice. It will never leave us, I think.
To answer your question, I believe we do not become less courteous or our decency is gone. It's just a matter of how and who we are talking to. There are times when even though we like to respect the person, we can't because in the first place they disrespected us. Just be humble and kind to all.
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As per my daily experience, I don't see all Filipinos like that, @dennnmarc. Sorry, but not sorry. What's up, kapatid? Anything good happening?
Yeah, that's for sure. Not all of us are like that but I'm just lucky enough to be surrounded by good people. My gosh! How am I? hmm, I think I am alright. Just busy to school since thesis is upcoming. But how are you ate?
Cool beans!!!
Oh, busy bee @dennnmarc I can barely get on now that f2f classes are back on track. Have to travel daily from one town to another to drop and pick daughter up. Hashtag nanay alalay. Thank you for asking. I hope you're doing awesome yourself 🙂
Sometimes. Especially to those who truly deserve it. Politeness begets politeness gamin nu kuwa kabsat. 🙃
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Paysu man, kabsat!!
Tama ka sis. These values you've mentioned are deteriorating. I can imagine what the future with this kind of society. It is scary.
Sad truth, sis. I know we are hospitable in out own homes, pero pag sa labas, imamarites ka na, who you ka pa lol. Perfect combo!
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I grew up being addicted to "thank you" and till now, I say it more often even to the extent of thanking a trader for collecting the money I'm paying for goods.
Honestly, politeness is diminishing very fast in our world and we need to look out for it
Carry on, @kingsleyy
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Some people just don't care, mommy. I also see a lot of those who doesn't know how to say thank you and excuse me and sorry and it makes me a little mad 😕
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Hmm, I notice that too, maybe it was because of the impact of social media influencers as they always spend their time on socmed.