The work trip to Lisbon is coming up fast and while I am mostly prepared to deliver, physically I am far from it. On one of the nights there is a dinner that requires a suit, and I am dreading having to try on mine. I have several, but I had to buy a new one the last time I needed one because my bones have grown (too fat), and that was only six months ago.
Will it still fit?
I hope so.
There is not enough time to lose the weight and, not enough time to buy a new one. So, whatever it is, it'll have to do, regardless.
It is not like I am rolling about from place to place, and perhaps for people in their mid-forties, I am not in such bad shape at all, for me though, I feel it. So, I believe I am ready to actually do something about it.
The fat weight is about diet, but I have always been pretty heavy in relation to my height, but also athletic. For example, my max bench press was 135kg (297lb) and at the same time, I was able to static box jump to a height of 130cm (51in) - but that was a very long time ago...
No it wasn't.
It was less than five years ago.
What happened to me?
Perhaps Hive.
But, it isn't just that I was sitting here writing, it is also that at the same time and what was the catalyst for me joining Hive in the first place, family took priority. With so many challenges faced one on top of the other and back to back, I just ran out of time, energy and perhaps my will to keep myself healthy and functioning well physically. And now, I am in that frame that something has to be done before I degrade further, and get burdened with more of the consequence of "letting oneself go".
The consequences are far ranging and they impact on pretty much every aspect of our physical, mental and emotional health, at least they do on mine. I feel uncomfortable, I don't like the way I look, I don't think clearly, I am also lethargic, unmotivated and my confidence suffers - among many other things.
So why let myself get this far?
Remembering that I am not that far" out of shape, I think one of the reasons that it is possible to get very out of shape is that we acclimatize to "new normals" quickly. And because these changes happen quite slowly, unless paying attention, we can add a little here and there until it is more than a little and a molehill, has become a mountain - or a roll, has become a tire.
I don't like the supposed "body positivity" culture that wants to normalize being overweight, because it is all about the looks side of thing, without looking into how overweight people actually feel. They say "be comfortable in your own skin", but berate overweight people who have chosen to lose weight, as if they are only doing it for the looks side of things because of social pressure.
No, it feels crap for most people to be overweight, regardless of what society's opinion is.
Yet, the media conveniently leaves off how terrible it can feel for someone's stomach to get in the way of them putting on their shoes, or being out of breath climbing stairs, or having to buy a new suit, when they have several perfectly good ones in the closet. Not to mention the myriad other issues that come with being overweight, now and in the future.
The last week has been hectic and the next two are going to be more so, but I am going to go to the gym at least four times this week and hopefully squeeze in a session or two whilst on a work trip next week, because regardless of whether it helps me lose weight, it makes me feel better physically and mentally.
It has nothing to do with anyone else's journey, as that is their business, but I do wonder how so many are able to defend being unhealthy, when they themselves are clearly suffering in multiple ways daily, blaming others for the way they feel.
I don't care about my weight.
I do care about my wellbeing.
Taraz
[ Gen1: Hive ]
Aww too bad I'm still in asia since you're going to Lisbon, maybe you would've had some free time to meet up
That would have been great. Hopefully they send me to Asia sometime! :D
i think its not hive happened to you but world changed, covid ,restrictions,war stress its easy to gain weight in these last 3 years, but i hope we will have more will and lose that extra weight, im on this road too:)
It has been a longer journey to get here than the last three years, though it hasn't helped.
We should go in a better direction!
Good luck with the suit, I am sure it will fit. It is easy to drop water weight quickly with low carbs and sleep.
If only it was water weight! :D :D
Muscle is harder to drop ;)
That is the optimistic attitude Mr. Taraz, take care of your well-being, and when you return from Lisbon resume depending on your time that activity or discipline to take care of mind-body life, and health. For now, put on that suit that you have in your wardrobe, I assure you that you will look at the level of commitment. Successes and a very good trip
I will have to try and squeeze into the suit tomorrow and cross my fingers I don't split a seam! :D
I will cross them with you so that your suit fits well and better and so that the work trip is the best possible 🤞💪
Whatever the case, I hope you enjoy Lisbon. I will wave at you from the Portugese countryside ;^)
I hope I get to see more than the hotel!
I hope so too :^) And let me add, as a reply to your post, that mental health and weight aren't necessarily connected. I have always had a healthy weight ( aside from being born premature as half of twins and having to play catch up ) but suffered so much mentally, that I've also felt pretty crappy physically, often times. I am doing better l, now, but it's still a daily battle and yes, I have to agree that being physically active helps ( I just don't do, never have done and probably will never do gyms ).
Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that they are the only things connected, but the body affects the mind and vice versa.
What if you always had an unhealthy weight? Would it have helped your mental health?
I knew you didn't mean to say this but felt like putting it out there anyway ;^)
And to answer that question of yours. Unhealthy weight probably wouldn't have helped my mental health either ;^)
mens sana in corpore sano
Cheers!
I fully agree with you, it's not a matter of weight but of well-being.
feeling good about yourself is important regardless of weight, maintaining healthy lifestyles to be healthy is something else and it's just as important... I think both things can coexist.
As far as I'm concerned, I believe that many times it was laziness that dominated; paradoxically, the older I get, the less lazy I am... everyone has always told me that I work in reverse heh heh!
I wonder if it goes in line with needing less sleep, where we get more bored and have to find things to do, which leads to more things to do :D
Mmm I'll tell you... I need to sleep, let's say it's always been one of my hobbies eh eh!
But when I'm awake I'm very productive and I don't know laziness anymore... it's not bad to grow old, even if maybe I'd prefer time to flow slower heh heh!
It only gets faster. Each year is a smaller percentage of our lives, and our memories are getting longer.
Well then you have to work to keep building good memories 😉
I absolutely feel much better when my weight is down. It only takes about five pounds to make me tired and sore, and can't get out of a chair gracefully. So while I don't care about being super slim, I do care about being at a weight that is both easy to maintain and doesn't make me feel sluggish. Eat good food, drink enough pure spring or well water, and get at least some exercise every day. Even a ten minute walk will do wonders. Get a dog!!!
Victimhood is in vogue.
Makes a difference to quality of life, even if only slight!
Not yet. We haven't had the chance to travel together in 7 years, and a dog would make it even harder again. My wife and daughter want another though.
And incentivized on the social platforms.
Traps. It pays to be a victim, one becomes dependent on those "incentives," and they are in effect disabled.
In effect, they are the masters of their own destiny - turning themselves into victims.
Yup. They choose to value their shortcomings.
I think I am lucky for wearing suits because I keep my weight and body shape almost the same with 5 years ago except my belly 😁
:D
It is in my shoulders too!! and my belly...
You do not look fat, you are in good shape and if you weigh 100 kg, then this is your normal weight. I also have a wide bone and a weight of 120 kg with a height of 180 cm, but few people will say that I am fat.
I am closing in on 90 and am short. I don't look "that fat" but I would prefer to be closer to 75.
When I was a hungry student, my weight was 85 kg))
:D
I can't say what I would have been, because I was very ill at school. The lightest I got was 47 kg.
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Change the culture and go with smart casual 😊
I agree that maintaining a healthy weight and being physically active is important for overall well-being and it's great to see that you are taking steps to improve your health. It's understandable that family and other life events can make it difficult to prioritize personal health, but it's important to remember that taking care of yourself ultimately benefits not just yourself but also your loved ones. It's not about what society deems as attractive, it's about feeling good and being able to live your life to the fullest. Keep going and best of luck on your journey.
yesterday I spoke with my mother's friend on the phone. I told her current value of my hive and she was like:
You should withdraw it. You could invest that money well.
I was like: facepalm.
good luck with the suit.
Weight is just a measure unit for the mass of the body. It can be healthy weight or bad weight but the weight scale won't tell you.
Being "wellbeing" is the best solution but the most difficult part is being aware of it. Not using it as an indulgent excuse (like I wrote in one of my last articles) or being a shield for shyness.
That is one of the reason why I gave up playing wheelchair basketball at agonistic level (I am able-bodied) and I started playing it more softly, coaching a team and I am starting the path to become a Yoga teacher. Yoga is giving so much to me, that is even hard to explain. But I will post about my personal journey in this community!
I think we have all been in this position before. Look at the positives as you know the tie, socks and shoes will fit lol. It is terrible knowing we have to lose weight as I think I also need to shed a good 15kg's even after my holiday in hospital. Being on Hive just seems like a priority right now as this sets everything up for the future.
Putting your best to remain physically healthy, I think paying less attention to how you look can do little good.
The new suit means new confidence, meet new friends, smile and possibly move to a new environment where you can have more outdoor activities with little or no restrictions.
#Selfimprovement
'Different strokes for different folks', here i am trying to gain weight and @tarazkp is trying to loose some😄, i really wish we all could just snap our fingers and boom! we get the perfect shape that we want, the world would have been a better place.
Your final statement is so well said. The gains made by improving your well being can't be measured by a scale, but they do leave a lasting impact. Working out helps me improve my focus, helps me to stay motivated throughout the day, and helps me make better choices. It is so easy to fall off track and even easier to stay off track. I'm glad youbare committed to getting back on track, and so am I!