Ha it always makes me laugh when people START a relationship by saying 'look, id like for it to be open' just in case.... Obviously your needs are fulfilled which is very cool. I think you reach a point where you realise some sacrifices are worth it as you don't want to hurt the other person!
Us, well, we totally were absolutely in love with each other so much that we just can't be jealous. That made it easy when we accidentally had a threesome and loved it. Then a few of them, and foursomes haha - so much fun. It actually made us even closer - we liked seeing each other with other people! Something about your partner enjoying themselves. We had enough love and trust and commitment to each other there was absolutely no worries at all!!!
Now we can't be bothered - and still enjoy being with each other. It's true what they say, if you're with the right person, you don't need anyone else. But ya gotta work at it and believe in it too.
The absolute gold standard that is never to question at all in Ecuador is officially monogamy. Even the idea of not doing so is outrageous. At the same time, unofficially, everyone is betraying everyone. That was the main reason for me. I don't like those kind of secrets, or feeling like I have to keep something a secret.
In the end, it was as you said. There was no need. And even though she agreed, besides not even having it cross my mind, we're so good as things are that I don't want to get into that these days, either getting hurt or feeling weird. Maybe it'll happen in the future and we'll have to figure it out, who knows.
That's so true. Total hypocrisy. I like that approach - an open marriage or relationship is an honest one, not necessary a sordid one.