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RE: The Weekly Turni- Issue 71

in BDCommunity2 years ago

You know, I stopped making all the effort. For some reason, I can't seem to take the pain of rejection in that area. Both in real life and online, I just don't bother. I do try to be interactive though because who knows? There may still be someone who wants to be friends off the Block chain and we could hang out someday. You said everything on my mind concerning making Friends. I'm no introvert or extrovert, I can be jovial, funny and a wild cat but I'm also reserved, love my space and appreciate solitude. Maybe as you said, I'm getting to be more isolated. Accepting the idea of the handfull of people I know which is not supposed to be so. But I'm working on it. Sometimes all I want is someone to return the vibe, I can only keep it going for so long. I don't like feeling like a nuisance ... So far, I'm interacting with no one outside of the blockchain except for a few who've burned out. It's bad isn't it? 😐

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Both in real life and online, I just don't bother. I do try to be interactive though because who knows? There may still be someone who wants to be friends off the Block chain and we could hang out someday.

I understand where you're coming from. And it's not often that we reject and/or get rejected because we want to. Sometimes the rejection we faced often makes us feel like reaching out to others isn't worth it and unwillingly we're doing the same to others what we have faced. But from my experience, I have hardly met people who hasn't reached back out me. So... making friends might be worth it

Yeah. I do hope so because it seems the exact opposite. They just come and you try your best to keep it but it's not enough. Then you end up with an attached heart and painful aches. Lol. It doesn't anymore though. Maybe cause I'm very much used to it now. I hope to make one new friend this year... If possible

@deraaa :

Sometimes all I want is someone to return the vibe, I can only keep it going for so long.

I can relate. I often felt such emotions in the real world, but a few days ago, dad said something, that made me think twice; "Don't come to conclusion so fast."

This world is too small, everyone is having their own crisis and own problems. We tend to see everyone from one perspective, which at times makes our vision blurry. If we put ourselves in their shoes, maybe we will be able to understand them better. Not saying everyone is a saint, but all I am saying is don't take it all upon your shoulders.

I stopped making all the effort.

Don't stop making all the effort. Be yourself, give yourself the value you deserve. And, surely don't stop trying, eventually, you will make true friends, it is only a matter of time.

If we put ourselves in their shoes, maybe we will be able to understand them better

This is something i literally do and it may have turned to a bad habit of making up excuses for some people.

Don't come to conclusion so fast."

I really try not to but when you've grown up with a certain type of unhealthy mindset, it gets rocky. However, I'm working on it. You have no idea how much the thought of rejection scares the life outta me. It's a paralyzing fear really.

Don't stop making all the effort. Be yourself, give yourself the value you deserve.

I'll keep this in mind. I'm really grateful for your words.

growing up with an unhealthy mindset isn't something that can be prevented. societies think that what they believe is true, there are prejudices that they advocate and wrongs they vouch for, and often have a different and/or open mindset that can be frowned upon. Don't beat yourself up over it and be proud that you're indeed trying your best to create your own mindset and see things from a different or better perspective 👍

I highly agree with @surrealfia here. I guess we can go on and on writing about the misleading nonsense society establishes and how fragile the grounds are.

@deraaa I understand that we tend to grow this behavior of giving excuses for others at a point and how bad it can become because I have fallen for that too back in 2018. The memories are too clear to forget. But, know that you will be able to overcome it all, just the way you want to. It will just take time.

rejection scares the life outta me
I have realized last month that I feel this way too. However, we can't deny that in this life nothing is permanent. We learn from mistakes and from experience, may it be ours or others.

I know that we all are survivors and will survive well. Just don't lose hope too early. Hope to see you around.

Thank you very much @tahminasyed. I appreciate you taking your time to reply. And I am sure i will overcome it. I do hope to see you around as well...

Thank you so much...❤️