Purely from my own perspective... there is no getting over it. There is no 'it'....the process itself changes the person forever.
Accepting the new person that you have become is the trick.
(....which I think, only time can achieve).
'The old you' doesn't exist anymore. (looking back, that's how I can frame it relative to myself)
....And that's a fucker.(in my experience).
yep. that sums it up pretty well.