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Topic Of Discussion - "Age Bracket in a Relationship "
Hey guys, I think age is just a number, but many don't seem to agree. I've brought it for discussion, what do you think, especially in a relationship.
Can you date someone older than you as a man, Likewise, can you date someone younger than you as a lady?
Do you think of age as a priority in living life?
What age are for certain things in life (marriage, school e.tc)?
Hehehehe, one bonus question (A perfect illustration)
if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..
Feel free to ask more questions and share your thoughts relating to the topic in the comment section.
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I feel like relationships depend on maturity so yes I can; dated a few older people and let me say if someone doesn't have sense, nothing can change it.
To a point, I won't lie that it isn't, I wouldn't date a teenager or my grandpa.
I still care about a reasonable age gap.
There is no age for certain things; I went to school at 15, graduated at 19.
I know people who got married at forty; life doesn't have a manual.
If he has his plans right and I love him, why not, but I guess there will always be a fear that he will finish and leave after all the years of waiting.
I feel like there is no manual for love or relationships, what works for A might not work for B, we should all follow our hearts and when we get something worth it, these petty things shouldn't be a reason to throw it away.
Wisdom 👏👏👏👏✨
Thank you 😊
Will not kill you.... Shey you understand watin she write...
Normally na 😂😂😂
Everything makes sense.
Na wetin I be wan write wey I to day write story 😂😂🤣
Me no get sense.
I no fit write watin get sense...
Make wuna account watin de my head..
The thing comot like altar call
No na
Mummy G.O na sensei
Divine wisdom
Wait make I go read your comment sef
💨
You this woman, I go soon come find you.
Hmm.. maturity, plans, goals and direction matters.
Yeah true. That's a likely possibility because you can't trust guys of nowadays. Especially with the kind of girls they have in schools now.
Exactly, these are the most important to me and if I date a guy and he leaves, it would always be his loss.
That grandpa for fit you ooo...
Just like that you go learn extra respect.
Like now you don't kneel to greet me as per sister-inlaw..
Make I arrange grandpa for you na, I get one ned oh
Hope he yellow and still have white teeth intact
18 is missing but you go manage and cream go make am yellow.
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Thank you so much.
Hahahaha this cracked me up sha, but that's the Bitter truth
😆 sense no be age at all.
Not at all
E get reason why person talk
Fool @ 40😂😂😂
Because e don see
😆
Yes oo
Let me answer this first before i dive into this main talk because its relates personally to me anyways the bonus question
It depends, first on maturity and responsibility level of the guy in question i am suppose to wait for...
And its also depends on the meaning of wait, wait for marriage or wait to continue a relationship
If it is to continue a relationship definitely yes, there is no harm in waiting expecially if it was a good relationship from the start and both hearts are knitted into each other.
But for marriage , you go wait tire, because no fresh out of school guy will tell me he is ready to settle down, no job, no financial stabilty.
There is one thing we should understand, marriage is not all about love.. love inside marriage is like 20% so if love is the reason you want to wait and marry this particular school guy then .. its the ladies cup of tea but as for me I MOVE...
To add to what you said, love is good oo but marriage without money inside will gradually reduce that love and then persistent disputes. So before any marriage, securing a job, is very important, it's that money that will maintain the marriage no matter how we pretend.
For instance, I request for pampers money and my husband says no money, milk, clothing, name it, food...manage this 3k, men I go vex in bitterness and the love will be on search mood🤩
Yes mummy
It's better i cry in Dubai
😂😂😂
But truth, i see a guy talk about marriage with nothing to show forth, it anger me
Guy hustle!!!
Hahaha
This babe dey vex
Lol, no be say i like money sha but let me see your effort whereas i will support
I agree with you...no room for pretense
Why will i
Na me go suffer for the marriage
I like your response on the issue of waiting. Ladies don't have much patience to spend around waiting for too long.
If marriage is in the oven, then the waiting coils be worth it.
Exactly
😆 there are guys in my university that got married immediately after school oh; I think it's a "to each it's own" kind of thing.
They much have money and their life planned for them. Someone without a plan or knowledge on what to do after school who has not figured out how life is cannot just jump into a relationship like that.
They didn't have plenty money oh, but they were willing to plan things with their babes.
Some struggled even but now them dey ball.
It depends on your partner and how y'all are willing to plan.
Very true
Yes oh.
Hmm true.. you need a very understanding partner. But I fear thing would be harder if you marry when you haven't made everything settled.
In life, we will always want more and some might be unlucky that when you are ready to settle, you wouldn't find the person that is right for you.
Finding the right person when you are ready is unlucky?
Some men hv a solid set-out plan while still in school.
Those kind of men can easily blow financially almost immediately when they are out of school. Hence these category of men can jump in and out of relationships.
I want to believe they had some sort of financial backings and plans set already
Well to each its own like you rightly said
They probably might have but we saw them struggle a lot, clearly struggling but they said they wanted each other and it was enough.
Awwwwwww
I wish them well
😆 as in ehn, but that's why I say to each their own.
I have seen 50 years old man who has mad money and refuses to marry because he wants more.
Oliver twist....
He obviously won’t be able to keep one woman, wanting more won’t stop with the money... its even better he is single
Marriage is not for evetybody
Same here! Guys were just getting married and it's not like they had plenty money. It was just the right time for them I guess
Like ehn, when a guy wants you, they will do whatever they can to wife you oh; like they said, most know in weeks of meeting you.
I have seen someone thay even got married in school i mean a guy
Exactly, na so e be.
Yeah he was sha working and schooling o
Interesting, person way want marry go marry.
True talk ma
But there are students guys i have seen get married
Some guys in school just want fo fufill all righteousness of having certificate but they are capable of taking care of wife and children even more than those people that have graduated.
You sure the guy have a good business, but till in School, why won't i marry him??
From the bottom, THERES NO AGE TO ANYTHING IN LIFE. I think everybody knows that. Putting an unrealistic target on certain stages in life can put unnecessary pressure on the individual and make them fuxk up. It's okay to have a plan, not okay to have a deadline. Two VERY DIFFERENT THINGs. VERY DIFFERENT.
As much as everyone would say age is not a priority, it should be important. Don't go marrying someone insanely younger than you or vice versa. There is always a gray area Sha when the marriage works out but honestly, it's not a great idea in my opinion.
In the end, age is truly just a number. It doesn't determine anything, literally. Experiences are what makes us, not our age. So whether you choose to be with Methuselah or some fucking kid, the age doesn't matter, a whole of other factors play a very crucial role in the success of the relationship.
Eehn, what do I know about relationships 😂😂. I've only been in one, and it don't seem like another would be happening anytime soon.
Just find and marry your best friend Sha 😅
I feel having deadline is important to one's growth in life. It's better if the deadline is a personal one.
Because goAls without a deadline would likely die from procrastination.
I think we have a lot more things in common.
Well you're right about the deadline thing.
During my uni days I only get serious when it's a day to go, so that makes sense.
You wey be lord of the girls 🤣
Lol. The same guy that you call lord of the girls has not been in a relationship since 2018. 😅😂😅😂
Na you choose to not be now, no be say them no plenty.
Two very different thing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
'Because goAls without a deadline would likely die from procrastination"I have learnt 💥
So you feel like there should be a deadline in marriage?
Yeah it is a personal thing. Mostly for a guy. In my head, I have plans for the year I want to get married and I am working towards it to be personally ready before it gets to that time.
And you haven't told me; the bride, nawa oh
Even me, I don't know the bride. I am just working on myself mostly in building skills and finance.
I am the bride uncle, get in the program 😆
That deadline thing is too much pressure abeg. I've seen people that marry wrong because they felt they were too old and past the deadline they gave themselves. Marriage still scatter. It's just better to follow your heart and not compromise on that.
Hmmmmmm... Boss lady 🙌🙌🙌
Yeah creating goals and working towards them are important.
But i think with that plan you need to till have someone in mind?
What if you reach that age, then you start looking for the wife??
Still then!
This is very important oo
I have tasted and see and beleived. It has a way of curtailing some unnecessary misunderstanding in marriage .
My sister, congratulations.
May God bless the union 🙏😌
Thank you
My sisters no marriage is perfect oo. We all working towards perfection.
For me, age matters a lot. If you as a lady marries an older man of maybe 10 years difference, that's still time but for a guy to marry a woman who is older, mmba nu. That one di too much
Yes,I can marry someone older than me but with a reasonable age difference.
Guys like us that have two female best friends. What do we do oh?
Use measuring scale and scale the friendship.
E no suppose balance... 😂
😂😂😂
See you; men are scum generation.
Lol.. what's bad in having two female best friends. These girls have been with me since childhood oh. They are childhood friends as well.
Omo my boyfriend no carry bestie bestie near me oh 😆 I know females, I no gree.
That's why there needs to be boundaries. I am close to them but they know I have my boundaries. That's why I don't think I can marry anyone of them.
You are not ready for any form of contest or drama🤣🤣
New to I am jealous, my good person no reach that end🤩
You can't have 2 best sha... its good , better, best...
One is a good friend and the other a best friend
Lol... Yeah I know that I can not be very close to both in the same way. But they both have the titles.
Lol...just get ready to separate fights when both of them get to know that they are contesting for one handsome guy🤣. Of course, jealousy will come in, trust my gender🤩
Lol.. they are not contesting anything oh. Biko 😅😂...
I did not even take the level to that point. And they know each other.
😂😂😂😂 this cracked me up
This question always comes up in relationship program??
You can't love two persons at same time, one love must be greater check yourself
Whereas you can't marry the both
I go love ooo😘😘😋
Everyone says they married their best friend anyway .
Everyone day lie bro 😂😂😂😂😂
How u know??
It's how it is. Everyone likes to portray some superficial non-existent happiness in their marriage when it's all for the gram
😅
It is not , because you have witness or heard of pretend marriages online doesn't mean that everyone's marriage is a wreck o.
Omo marriage sweet when u are married to the right person, there will be challenges and issues even friend normally dey quarrel, it doesn't make them less happy.
So not everyone portray superficial happiness , some people ARE GENUINELY HAPPY.. biko ahhh
Fairs
It was a bit of a satire oh, my statement. I couldn't possibly generalize my statement that every marriage is a wreck.
I'm not a Grinch. I like seeing people been happy, makes me happy.
But I get, and respect your point.
You are married?
In this fake life, every marriage is perfect and a role model until divorce hits.
Exactly.
I never take social media love seriously Sha.
I've seen too many of how they eventually come out about abuse. Omo
Social media is deceptive
Big lie, best friend ni, best friend ke
Na wetin dey trend now oo...me sef dey find female bestie like this sef🤣🤣
Rightly said...
What can I do now that my best friend has ran away.
He will come back
No fear.
I go put am for prayer 🙏
😂😂😂..
Thank you my secretary.
Lmao..where he run go?
That's why you will marry me bah because I am your best friend, you are welcome my love.
the song playing in my head rn 😌
Go away 😆 song way I no get, send it to me oh, lemme listen so we will rest.
You don't have YouTube music?
When I can download illegally 😆
Which kind best friend be this???!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@stevenson7 you don see your wife already na
Isn't God wonderful 😊
A whole khaleesi
Na complete package God give you oh. @khaleesii weds @stevenson7
She never accept me first
I need to go find money 😅
😆 go and find fast fast.
The one you don get, you dey talk say no be money?
😆 you know the matter; complete indeed but to marry me cost oh, last child.
Ah.. bride price go fit buy Facebook.
Make bestfriend sha go hustle oo😂😂
I hear girls marry who's this ready
All your writeup makes sense sha
Thank you 😅
Your welcome
Hello, Naija peeps, how una dey?
Oh yes as a lady I can, depending on how mature the guy is in terms of marriage and his perspective too about marriage. This is because some men even with an older age behave and think like a child, so that man has to be reasonable enough for my YES,!
To a large extent, I don't think so, however, there is an age difference I can tolerate in marriage so that my children will not have to enjoy life with their Daddy at old age.
Life has no procedure. There is no specific age to either marriage or school, however, a teenager should not be talking about marriage, likewise an old man. It's advisable to attend school on time or engage in any business of your choice on time, make money while you can at your younger age so you can have your marriage at a reasonable age.
if the guy is still in the university and you are done with school, can you wait for the guy if he seems serious?..
Well, depending on the level of love we have for each other, his plans for the future even as an under G., and more importantly, if I trust him enough that he wouldn't serve me breakfast, in the long run, 🤩, then my answer is yes, I will.
😆 most of them will likely serve you breakfast especially if you aren't in school with him, sad reality.
Sad reality oo🤩🤩
You need to define your relationship to see where the train heading to 🤣
They can lie oh, this dating market lies plenty.
Hahaha
Breach of trust everywhere
Breach ke, there is no trust at all.
When you girls would no gree for the good boys and only prefer dating the bag boys. How lie no go plenty?
That's not true, I try to only date "good guys" but the fact is you never know someone's heart or who is pretending.
Hmm.. defining your relationship is very important!
Smiles... Saying it as if all guys are bad or like this. Nawa oh
Not all guys are bad, obviously.
yeah, I am an example to this statement...
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See eh there is one thing i live by, i never see anyone or judge anyone by their age, not even myself.....alot of people have assumed my age so much that i just concur to what they say because age really does not matter.
The few areas that age counts could be jobs, nysc(30 years max) ,and in the hospital to help with the health.
Marriage , friendship, relationship.. age doesn’t matter. What matters is level of maturity.
I know a really young couple 25 and 21 ...newly wed if you have a conversation with them for just a few minutes you would be amazed at the type of knowledge that comes out from Their mouth.so young yet so rich in wisdom.
I know a couple 23 and 45... shocking but i have stayed around this couple and the way they love themselves and God is admirable that i cannot even care so much about the age gap, it is easily forgettable and not noticeable if you are not told.
In age matter and relationship.. one man’s meat is another man’s poison..
But from my personal experience age really doesn’t matter.
i should write a post on my personal experience of being in an age-gap marriage. Thanks for the inspiration BTW It has been blissful
This is beautifully said...
I like been seeing young couple who relate well too.
If the age gap isn't far its uaually blissful.
Maturity matters but make the age gap too no far, they won't relate in thesame level.
23 and 45..wawu. I know that age difference works when they're both older, probably people that haven't married before or divorcee or widow(er). But a young 23 year old? That's a lot.
They say it's love🥰..but they look so cute together you can hardly tell
Love has no bounds really.
Omo 23 and 45 scares me for a lot of reasons; first is how long has he known her because there is a lot of grooming going on these days.
I think she met him when she was about 20...if I remember their wedding speech clearly☺️
Well to each their own 😆 I just have too many questions
I like how diverse the answers are already 😌
Sam, day post this thing early next time 😏
How much i love my country naija 😃 😀 😄
As in ehn
Once there is money relationship don set...
As in
Lets see it like this with a scenario...
A friend of mine got married last year despite he is my age oh, although i never too old 😁
Me sha know say dem never born me well cause pepper never rest a d i never see road finish...
The wedding was a banger tbh...
Lets be plain here
What do u even think makes a man ready????
As we all know location matters, as far as oyinbo dey concerned o if pikin don reach 18 then the coconut don mature meaning say u fit do things as u want...
But for naija, my brother u beter calm down think twice and look front before u fall jabirata...
I can date a woman older than me if she get bar oooo...
You see the thing about age ehn being a thing of life... i go say make everybody just gettat cause every man get him own race to run....
Me i sha like money and all of us self like am 👍 👌
But the fact that money can't buy valuez matters...
Values must be a thing that muzt be present not withstanding the age...
I don talk my own oooooooooooooooo
Funny enough
You just spoke the truth o
Financial stability is key o.... i’ll see some that has not finish buying subscriptions on his phone come and propose to be married.. ERROR...
Gone are the days of lets stuggle together o not in this economy
Now you are talking my dear
Owo ni koko ooo
Tani dear????
Hehehehehe
You get money... so? Money = Dear
😂😂😂
Lol....
I dont garrit...
Are u not a dearly dear
What's your definition of financial stability?
What about the part of building together?
As long as you are financially and emotionally ready, then you can get married.
Age doesn't matter in most cases unless it concerns pedophilia.
So it means i can marry a mummy that has money abi
If you are happy with a grandma, marry am, who go live with you for house?
If she die then i go inherit property...
Marry anoda bae
The money goes round
You will be shocked when she outlives you.
Ahhhhhh
Abeg ooooo
Na this one sweet pass... Na sugar mummy I dey find like this!
Hope say you ready to work oh.
Asper say I get sugar mummy?
Yes na
U go just dey soft anyhow
Girls no go fit dey bullshit u nw
Sugar mummy advert? Looks like you want one lol
Date an older woman if she has bar?
I don't get thus part...why the money factor?
@samostically please mention/tag me in your post
Happy weekend, so good to be here
Omo strong question indeed, sincerely speaking I don't think i can oo..lol
It's good to start living a good life at an early age, but it's also bad to rush life just because you feel you are getting old.
To relationship aspect, i think age really Matter to me, at least the guy should be older with 1 year, but then not more than 5 years😂, i wouldn't want to marry my father's age mate biko
For me, except circumstances beyond is like late admission, Asuu strike
At least by 16 ot 17 someone should be out of secondary school, 22 years one should be done with University and by 25years a girl should be married.
Then for guy at least 28-32 years he should be married
Just saying from my side of view tho😜
Sure, if he is serious and at have plans for himself
I have even seen student (boy)get married as far as you can Carter for a family why waste time getting married
Eh...so I have 6 to 8 years to get married according to @prechidi ... Nice! 😅
Hahahahaha but if you have money, which i know you are doing well now in 5 years you are good to go
I really love young couple
Imagine taking a walk with your son and people are asking whether it's your bro.
Before 50 you are done with training all your children and start resting.. you know that feeling right?