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Hello, I send a big hug to the Proof of brain community, I present myself to you with my participation in the contest Word of the week, created by @Calumam and run by @scholaris, this contest revolves around a diferent word each week, this week word is solitude
Hola le envió un fuerte abrazo a la comunidad de Proof of brain, me presento ante ustedes con mi participación en el concurso Palabra de la semana, creado por @Calumam y manejado por @scholaris, la temática de este concurso es una palabra distinta cada semana, esta semana gira entorno a la palabra "soledad".
My involuntary encounter with solitude
It is painful to enter a state of loneliness, especially when it is involuntary, however in this state you can learn, differentiate and compare the positive and negative elements of life. Today I come to talk about how loneliness helped me to see that there was another face beyond the pain, I present the concept of healing loneliness or solitude.
Es doloroso entrar en un estado de soledad, especialmente cuando es de manera involuntaria, sin embargo en este estado se puede aprender, diferenciar y comparar los elementos positivos y los negativos de la vida. Hoy vengo a hablarles de como me ayudo la soledad a ver que existía otra cara mas allá que la del dolor, les presento el concepto de soledad sanadora o solitude.
When we talk about loneliness, we always see it as something negative, but within loneliness, there is a whole side to the coin that we do not usually appreciate, the Solitude, it would be something like loneliness but is not negative at the level of mental health. Many doubt it, and many others exercise it by taking time to read a book, walk in a park in silence, jogging in a forest, choose your own, but we all need a convenient moment of solitude, silence, and isolation.
Cuando hablamos de soledad, siempre lo vemos como algo netamente negativo, pero dentro de la soledad existe un lado completo a la moneda que no solemos apreciar, la Solitude, seria algo así como una soledad que no es negativa a nivel de sanidad mental, muchos la ponen en duda y muchos otros la ejercen dándose un tiempo a leer un libro, pasear en un parque en silencio, trotar en un bosque, escoge la tuya personal, pero a todos nos conviene un momento de soledad, silencio y aislamiento.
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My moment came after a very toxic relationship, one of those that delude themselves by claiming to be a liberal relationship. Five years long, and thank God ended without either of us ending up dead, in this one, I realized that for a long time, I was alone.
Mi momento vino tras una relación muy toxica, de esas que se auto engañan diciendo que son una relación liberal. Cinco años de duración y que gracias a Dios termino sin que ninguno de los dos terminara muerto, en esta me di cuenta que durante mucho tiempo estuve solo.
The last seven months felt like being married to a stranger, a constant silence, only broken with the usual bickering, empty discussions about responsibilities and failures, finger-pointing everywhere, and no real dialogue, total cognitive blindness of the other, palpable loneliness.
Los últimos siete meses se sintieron como estar casado con una extraña, un constante silencio, solo roto con la pelea de costumbre, discusiones vacías sobre responsabilidades y fallos, dedos apuntando por doquier y sin un dialogo real, es decir, una total ceguera cognitiva del otro, una soledad palpable.
In those moments I looked for my "friends" but soon realized a reality: As I was busy dying inside, in slow drip mode, my friends had either left the country for immigration or flat out took sides and meddled during the separation, proving to be no one's friend.
En esos instantes busque a mis "amistades" pero pronto me di cuenta de una realidad: A medida que estaba ocupado muriendo por dentro, en modalidad goteo lento, mis amistades se habían retirado del país por inmigración o de plano tomaron bandos y se inmiscuyeron durante la separación, demostrando no ser amigos de nadie.
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Which led me to realize that I was in deep isolation and loneliness. It was the darkest time of my life, I went into chronic depression, I used shows like How i met your mother to help me sleep, I struggled with lucid dreams where she hurt me or worse, I hurt her, based on what we lived.
Lo cual me llevo a darme cuenta de que estaba en un profundo aislamiento y soledad. Fue el momento mas oscuro de mi vida, entre en una depresión crónica, usaba shows como How i met your mother para dormir, luchaba con sueños lucidos donde ella me hacia daño o peor aun, yo a ella, basado en lo que vivimos.
In that deep depression, I attempted against my life, already hanging in the air, I managed to untie the rope only by survival instinct, as I did not make the right knot, it turns out that, the one I made could easily fall apart, that saved my life. Who would have thought that my life would be saved by laziness, oh mother of all sins, high is my respect for you hahaha.
En esa profunda depresión, atente contra mi vida, ya guindando en el aire, logre soltarme solo por instinto de supervivencia, como no hice el nudo correcto resulta que el que hice podía desarmarse con facilidad, eso, salvo mi vida. Quien diría que mi vida seria salvado por la pereza, o madre de todos los pecados, alta estas entre mis respetos jajaja.
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In that state of loneliness, I realized that I didn't have to be negative and decided to seek help, first I started with a therapist, then a psychologist, and for a brief moment, a psychiatrist. Without looking to the sides I decided to establish new friendships with great people, and together with them I could walk little by little from the bottom of the river, where I was, it was an arduous process, it took me five months to feel ready to go to meetings, to sit and talk, to joke, to enjoy life.
En ese estado de soledad, me di cuenta que no tenia que ser negativa y decidí buscar ayuda, primero inicie con una terapeuta, luego una psicóloga y durante un breve instante, un psiquiatra. Sin mirar a los lados decidí establecer nuevas amistades con personas grandiosas y junto a ellos pude caminar poco a poco del fondo del rió, donde me encontraba, fue un proceso arduo, me tomo cinco meses sentirme listo para ir a reuniones, sentarme a hablar, bromear, disfrutar la vida.
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A very dear friend, my companion in countless early mornings throughout this arduous process. Someone I love deeply and owe my life to, once said to me: Look Jesus Antonio, as I kill you I go to hell, I revive you and kill you again, then I revive you again and finish you off, did you hear? At about 4 AM while convincing me, to go to sleep on a bad night full of negative thoughts, I still laugh to this day remembering that moment.
Una amiga muy querida, mi compañera en incontables madrugadas durante todo este arduo proceso, alguien a quien amo profundamente y le debo mi vida, en una ocasión me dijo: Mira Jesús Antonio, como te mates voy al infierno, te revivo y te vuelvo a matar, luego te vuelvo a revivir y te remato, ¿Oíste? A eso de las 4 AM, mientras me convencía, de ir a dormir en una mala noche llena de pensamientos negativos, aun me rió al día de hoy al rememorar ese momento.
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In those countless moments, I realized the difference between loneliness and the possibility of positive solitude, which ironically does not exist in my mother language, the closest word is freedom, and it just doesn't come close. Solitude: For me, it is that moment where you are truly isolated on a spiritual level from your situation, where you allow yourself to change and improve, inspire creativity and personal growth, it is the state of perpetual advancement of finding yourself and loving yourself.
En esos incontables momentos me di cuenta entre la diferencia entre la soledad y la posibilidad de una soledad positiva, cosa que irónicamente no existe en mi idioma materno, la palabra mas cercana es libertad y simplemente no se acerca. Solitude: Es para mi, aquel momento donde realmente estas aislado a nivel espiritual de tu situación, donde te permites cambiar y mejorar, inspiras la creatividad y el crecimiento personal, es el estado de avance perpetuo de encontrarte contigo mismo y amarte.
Over time I did some research, read some works that recited about love, but I soon realized that my problem was not: love, it was the loneliness that I felt while being loved. Loneliness that I always filled with good friendships, and that was not what I wanted.
Con el tiempo investigue, leí algunos trabajos que recitaban sobre el amor, pero pronto note que mi problema no era el amor, era la soledad que sentía mientras era amado. Soledad que siempre rellene con buenas amistades y eso no era lo que deseaba.
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In my research that I was doing in parallel to my frustration and depression management therapies, I found this thesis on loneliness and solitude which in very few words on page 63 ... they were experiences only of harmony, unity, and peace... It made me realize that many of my bright moments during the depression were nothing more than a side effect of solitude, the fights were over, and I felt peace, love and although the loneliness hurt, I was living and relearning to love life.
En mi investigacion que hacia en paralelo de mis terapias de manejo de frustracion y depresion, encontre esta tesis sobre la soledad y la solitude la cual en muy pocas palabras en su pagina 63 ... they were experiences only of harmony, unity, and peace... Me hizo darme cuenta que mucho de mis momentos brillantes durante la depresión no eran mas que un efecto secundario de la solitude, las peleas habían acabado y yo sentía paz, amor y aunque la soledad dolía, yo vivía y estaba re aprendiendo a amar la vida.
At that moment I realized that this loneliness was my friend, not an enemy, I was able to move on with my life and meet great people, now I look back with a fiancée and a baby on the way that hopefully will be born in October, and I can't help but smile, give a hug full of love to solitude and to all those who supported me, especially to that friend who I hope will read this someday.
En ese momento me di cuenta de que esta soledad era mi amiga, no una enemiga, pude seguir con mi vida y conocer a grandes personas, ahora miro hacia atrás con una prometida y una bebe en camino que esperamos nazca en Octubre y no puedo evitar sonreír, darle un abrazo lleno de amor a la soledad y a todos aquellos que me apoyaron, especialmente a esa amiga que espero lea esto algún día.
With this I close this publication, no doubt It should be in catharsis, but I think I would have never touched the subject, if this contest had not used this word Solitude, it is beautiful to have the opportunity to tell this story to someone other than the loneliness, the therapist and my fiancée.
Con esto cierro esta publicación, sin duda debería estar en catarsis, pero creo que no hubiera jamas tocado el tema si este concurso no hubiera usado esta palabra Solitude, es hermoso tener la oportunidad de contar esta historia a alguien mas que a la soledad, a la terapeuta y a mi prometida.
I will not invite you to anything, but I would be deeply grateful if you would comment on your personal growth in situations of loneliness and solitude, those positive, creative, artistic, artistic feelings, in general, of Growth! that you experienced in those moments.
Les envió un abrazo si llegaron a este punto, no les invitare a nada, pero agradecería profundamente si comentaran sus propios crecimientos personales en situaciones de soledad y los sentimientos positivos, creativos, artísticos, en general de ¡Crecimiento! Que vivieron en esos instantes.
The images are the property of the mentioned owners, the las photo is the latest family photo. I have used Deepl and Grammarly as supplements to the writing of this text.
Las imágenes son propiedad de los dueños previamente mencionados, la ultima imagen es mía junto a mi prometida. Deepl y Grammarly como complementos para la redacción de este texto.
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No importa que no se vean aquí. Dale click y oyelos para que acompañes este genial post. Creo que la música de Opeth o muchos de sus temas sobre todo la época Lamentations / Damnation tocan el tema de la Solitude de una manera muy especial
Wow broder, ya las escuche, son hermosas, muchisimas gracias por enseñarme estas canciones :D
Mi consejo de vida. Oyete toda la discografia de Opeth mi álbum favorito es el Blackwater park desde el 2000
la fecha, insuperable, de hecho mi Openmic de la semana el 72 y casi todaa música que hago es inspirada en opeth. Luego Still life y los últimos discos todos son muy brutales es una banda espectacular que se que amarás en su totalidad
Mañana lo hare, mientras ocmento motherhood :)
Si bro amarás esa banda
:3 Ya veremos.
Bravo! Indeed you are very right, People should not always think about or see loneliness in a negative way. It sure brings 'Solitude'. I really love the way you used that word 'Solitude' in this post. Nice, pathetic, motivating and inspiring story. I'm very happy you were able to go through such terrible and depressing times and come out a survivor with lots of experience in you. Keep stunting, Man.
Thank you for pass by and commenting, it was hard, but sure life goes on, and here i am currently, not only on my own two feets, but feeling better than before, having a family of my own, and making some sense out of life :)
Amazingly stunning that must be. I'm filled with so much joy hearing that from you. Kudos and make sure you enjoy more of life.
:3 I will, try my best :)
Ok, relaxing to hear that.
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My story was also quite same like you..I had also travelled from the path of break up 💔..when my girlfriend left me after 4 years..I was so depressed at that time..Some of my friends gives suggestions but no one takes stand for me..and now the result is..I have only few friends and I am happy with that... Loneliness teach us many valuable lessons of life and make us known about the rights persons also...
I am happy that you had not give up...
Have a great day brother ❣️
Stay strong, i know how hard it was, take a hug with you before you leave, and have a great month as well :)
Un puku abrazo a ese puku voto amigo, saludos.
Muy agradecido 😊 es de hace unos días atrás pero estábamos organizando todo el tema de la Iniciativa y hoy es que nos actualizamos con el comentario del Pukuvoto
Ah, entiendo, ¿Como va eso?
Todo listo mañana sale. Hoy quisimos dedicarnos a editar el podcast ya que ayer fueron 4 horas de Entrevistas: OscarPs / Andrewmusic
WOW, eso es MUCHISIMO material, increíble.
Si y ya está casi listo. Y hoy en la noche tendremos otra entrevista al papá de @orimusic
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This is an incredible post @jesustiano. You've poured your heart out in the most beautiful manner and touched multiple points of importance. My how you've grown and the things you've learned. That is a precious gift.
With regard to your question, loneliness is something I've only experienced a brief handful of times. Isolation and aloneness are what I have experienced a great deal of. One time in particular is of the greatest significance, but it's one I'm doing planning to do a post on, so I won't digress into it here. The experience of those things drove me to a closer, intimate relationship with myself, while in the process of going to the deepest darkest depths I've ever traversed. I simply cannot function without having a percentage of my time spent in solitude. It's imperative to my growth and it's a habit from a young age.
Again, beautiful post, so glad you wrote this, even though I know how hard it must have been. That resonates throughout. When you pour your real self into a creative process, it can be like that, but what comes out is the most beautiful creation. 🤗
It took me 10+ hours to write it, i just... could'nt end it, it took forever to be able to comunicate how i felt and what it was like.
I will await for the post, do remember to paste the link here pls :) if able <3
I send you a big hug of support, i know you havent got it easier, noone does.
That is exactly how it goes with me at times, just how you described it. It's so worth it.
That post will be a while in coming. There are others I need to do first to build up to it, lolol. I will let you know for that one when it does go up.
Thank you for your big hug of support. You're right no one does have it easy. That is always in my mind. I feel very lucky, frankly, and have nothing to complain about.
God bless you :3 Have a good day, im gonna do two post today, my creativity is overflowing :D
Thank you, you also! Two posts, wow, your creative river is flowing, move with it, that's a beautiful place to be. 😊
Lol im posting them all today, about 3 maybe 4, im doing the translations bit by bit today :) I want them to be spotless.
Wow, that's a lot of work. Spotless, yes, I hear you there. I'll check them out. 😊
Wow thank you very much for sharing about this dark moments of your life and also how you got out of it, I have never attempted to take my life even if I have had some darker moments, I find life and what I can learn about life, technology, science and the whole universe so fascinating that it is just way too interesting to be alive, and would rather have many lifetimes instead, but that is my point of view, I wish you and your fiancee much happiness and that you get a healthy baby, enjoy your weekend and stay !ALIVE
Thank you and you're very considerate to comment, thanks, it was a hard thing to talk about, because its a bit more darker than what it looks, Love to see how you look live with that much light on your eyes :)
Thank you for those great wishes and your time and comment, i really apreciate it <3
Thanks a lot, and I hope that you can continue looking at life from the bright side, have an awesome weekend and stay !ALIVE
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I'm always like "why be afraid of being alone? Your shadows wouldn't harm neither will the voice of your heart hurt."
There are many good side to being alone which is unknown to most of us.
Sorry about the horrible experience you went through. I'm glad you came out better and stronger.
You shared a powerful story.