How do you perceive an Unfollow?


I will (Un-) Follow Him


(Sovranita / YouTube)


I love this version of the song, for many reasons. But what I love most about the song is that it does fit a question that I asked myself today.

Do I follow him or do I not? For whom our ocean isn't to deep?

We follow accounts on Hive. Especially in the first months. For many reasons. Over time we start to follow people. And just as in the offline world it happens that you lose track of one another. Friends, acquaintances, people come and go. For many reasons.

So do followers on Hive.

How do you perceive an Unfollow if you recognize it and why do you unfollow ?

Is it honest to unfollow if you don't really follow ?

Pants down!

And to spread some joy I take the applause at the end of the video for bringing up this uncomfortable topic ;).


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It’s funny but I don’t know why, I don’t get unfollow notifications on the front ends. You could have deleted my meager account from your following list long ago and I would be none the wiser! It’s funny only because there’s one account that will routinely follow me and comment on my music post but every single time it does that, it’s a new follower notification. I never get the unfollow notification of it lol which leads me to believe they do cut me from their list, to then reapply it. Odd stuff but I can’t be bothered.

I have been trimming the fat on my followers routinely over the last year or so. Sad to see some of them go but if they’re gone from the platform and I know they are gone, fuck it see ya.

I don’t get unfollow notifications

Me neither 😂. I barely recognize if someone unfollows me lol. It just happened that I trimmed a bit and someone responded, so I was like 🤔 Waiiiit a minute....

Ahhh and don't worry bout responding late or so. You all are busy 😉.

Whenever someone unfollows me, I just assume they came to their senses. Much of my content loses its appeal in the cold light of sobriety :D

I just assume they came to their senses

😂 that is a great way to see it. They probably did in a way. But you sound as you don't take it personal.

I don't take anything that happens online personally. None of these people know me well enough to judge me.

To take nothing personal online is quite a challenge I can imagine. It depends on how much involved you are. And a bit of your own way to approach certain things happening online. I'm on the "Don't take things personally"-path myself. Since I don't know me well enough, how could I judge others 😂. ...still a human though, so this is an ongoing process...

Since I don't know me well enough, how could I judge others

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I don't know if wiser words were ever spoken!

I don't know if wiser words were ever spoken!

I probably have spoken even wiser words already...and more may be to follow...😱😁

I'll be looking forward to it!

Speaking of which, great to see you posting again!

I unfollow those I don't interact with or those that I give attention without getting anything in return, pretty much like I do with people in real life ;<)

or I unfollow when I find out they have become inactive. The more people I follow, the more energy it costs me.

Have some !PIZZA

they have become inactive

I looked at this too, though inactive is not an indicator per se. I am inactive from time to time too. So do you mind ppl unfollowing you?

Good to see ya :)

I merely mean "inactive for a long time" and no interaction whatsoever. I do not mind people unfollowing me if we haven't/ have hardly connected before. If we have, I wonder about the why ( my mind loves to analyze everything ) but I sure do understand. We all have only so much time in a day and have to be selective in what we consume.

Abraco!

Yah same here, more or less. I don't ponder about it, tbh I hardly recognize who unfollows. It's not that I would go through the list everyday. Plus people can still vote and interact on your posts without following. I stumble upon stuff I like but don't necessarily follow right away. The feed list becomes long and I want it to be kind of content I read rather than it to be filled with a wide following.

It can be a delicate topic when politics become involved I think, but when it is just an expression of who it is you wanna see in your feed than hell go for it 😄

I don't often unfollow people. When I do, it is when they are too spammy (for me) with posts I have no (longer) interest in.

When people unfollow me, I guess I'm no longer producing content that they like. Which is tottaly normal, I change through the time and so do my writings change. Other people (and their interest) change as well.

Conclusion: No hard feelings at all, just a normal process of evolution!

Thanks for taking the time to share your opinion and to see it as an evolutionary process is a decent way to see it. I agree with the changes in style and interest.

No hard feelings, always best for everyones sake lol, though I understand if ppl get it wrong.

I get it that people don't like it at first sight aswell (me neither), but when I think more in depth about it, yes it's just an evolutionary process.
Was a good question brought by you! I think it can certainly help people reflect on it!
!PIZZA

Yah, I think it is normal to feel a bit awkward once you noticed someone unfollowed you. It's a fine line between taking it personal or rational. I remember feeling awkward the first time too, but then again it's just numbers as everyone can still interact without following.

When I decluttered my feed I didn't even thought about how it may be perceived by some. Just because I knew that it is nothing personal from my side. But the others do not know. So I thought it might be a good question to ask and to see what others think about this topic.

I don't even care now about follow and unfollow. I usually do not unfollow people; if I do, there must be a reason. Most of the time, the reasons are personal and if it is about only social media, most of the time if I feel I am not interested into their niche content, music or anything, I just unfollow and keep my circle small :P :P

Most of the time, the reasons are personal and if it is about only social media, most of the time if I feel I am not interested into their niche content, music or anything,

Luckily I haven't had a personal reason so far to push the Unfollow button. It is more the interest. But I didn't really thought about how it may be perceived as for me it is clear why.

I don't keep track of who unfollows me, I always assume who does is free to do so and has its reason.

keep my circle small

Just as in real life. The closer, the smaller the circle.

Exactly :D

Haha, curiously a couple of my latest posts talk a bit about this same subject. Perhaps you've read one of them. If not, don't worry. Cause then, that only means we are in sync. :D

Now, concentrating only on answering your question about how I react if someone stops following me. Let me tell you that I react only with relief and celebration. Because that way I know that I already have one less hillbilly to whom I would have to explain things up so that they can really understand my usual extravagances and uncanny flourish writting. LoL

Well hello my fav cranky lol,

really understand my usual extravagances and uncanny flourish writing.

I have to admit that it is not easy to follow all the time, but a bit of read between the lines and eye winking and one can get behind you a bit lol. But do we always understand ourselves period? So to expect others to get us is a perception we have. Communication is a path with a lot of traps 😄.

Now when it comes to an unfollow I would have put it in different words, cuz it's not that I do a happy dance, neither do I break down. It is more like 'ok' 🤷‍♀.

So to expect others to get us is a perception we have. Communication is a path with a lot of traps 😄.

Yep! definitely a path with a lot of traps. };)

Now when it comes to an unfollow I would have put it in different words, cuz it's not that I do a happy dance, neither do I break down. It is more like 'ok' 🤷‍♀.

No doubt there are all kinds of dances. Some that are danced loose and separated from each other and some others that are danced hugging each other all over the dance floor. LoL

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Apparently I unfollowed you, haha, and half a year of inactivity/ no blogs from your side was indeed the reason. Re-followed ;<)

😄 Fair enough.