A Spoiled Brat!
The first impression if you found out that this person is an only child upon introducing himself. Just like the usual fondness of stereotyping the youngest in the family as being stubborn and the eldest would be regarded as the responsible one but can also have an extreme jealousy to the other siblings in the family. We are branded without any rationality that we are being spoiled.
A rare sight in which the camera really caught this team-mate of mine having this cringe on what the prizes I've won from hitting the metrics. Some cash incentives were also given to us that time based on our performance.
We all have the Pros and Cons being the only child and let's check if we have already have this certain kind of personalities that a person in this situation exist. Being an only child can develop behavioral differences from the formative years of these children compared to those who have siblings. I have somehow noticed this by myself because I was kinda different from others as a loner.
But as a loner I have this struggle to get along with other people because I have been raised not getting what I want, compared to most of the kids with similar situation. They can have what they want because their parents are giving up to their demands when they start to do these terrible tantrums . In my case, I would have to do my best to save up my meager daily allowance just to get what I want and be with those peers who have this particular thing that I also want. It takes me a long time to save up because my daily allowance is not even a a quarter of what they were given by their parents.
Yes, it's sad! I have no right to act like a spoiled brat even though I wanted to. If I would do the tantrums then I will just drain my tears and lose all my energy until I faint, I will still have nothing.
Contrary to the normal Only-Child Scenarios, privileges and benefits, Let's check how happy we can be.
1. We can stand on our own. We do everything we can do every tasks without needing any help from others.
- There have been many studies about how well can the only-child do in the society immersed with peer groups of kids with siblings. These studies came up with a conclusion that people like me are selfish and self-centered. On the contrary, I don't absolutely agree on the that notion because most only-child individuals would always share whatever they have to their peers just to gain their attention and for them to be liked.
2. We always need to stand out and be competitive.
- Yes, this is true because we need to always prove that being alone without the help from other kids just to be acclaimed that we are the best. One of the outcomes from the tests, only-child kids exhibited greater flexibility in thinking. This flexibility is associated with language perception and processing.
3. We have nobody to fight with.
- And we don't have siblings to fight for us also. We all know for a fact how peaceful and safer we can be in our own homes. With nobody to disturb us when we sleep and no stubborn siblings asking to play with them if we are busy doing something. But then again there's no fun if you are just playing alone.
4. We get the undivided love from our parents.
- Since we are loved and get all the attention, it can come to a point that everything that needs to be done even if we already gets older, it is still being done by our parents for us. Contrary to having siblings, the first born already develops the sense of responsibility to take care of his/her younger siblings like to cook for them and the younger siblings to follow the path of the elderly's responsible acts.
5. You cannot be compared to anybody by your parents.
- Let's all admit that some of you who have brothers and sisters were compelled to do the same or even should do more than what your siblings put on the table. Being compared to anybody is really depressing so I am happy that I can always evade the topic instantly when being compared to my cousins.
6. Nobody would punish only-child kids aside from their parents.
- It is evident that sometime in your life when you committed mistakes, you've been hit by your elder siblings. It should only be our parents who have the right to punish us this way. But nowadays there is an ongoing law that prohibits hitting their own children even as a punishment from the kids' wrongdoings.
Awareness to the differences
It is good that we understand what the differences that these kids might become so that we will be able to know as parents how we can adjust and make sure our kids will have a great environment while they grow up. Kids should also get the love that they need at certain levels though it is advisable to always give it a full blast. so we won't have regrets in the end.
I may have displayed such behaviors stated but it just boils down to the totality of how awesome a person can be whether he / she is an only child or raised with all the love from both their parents and their brothers/sisters.
If we can adapt really well with the society being with friends, act accordingly in the presence of strangers around us, co-workers, then project a person with good upbringing then we shouldn't be bothered.
The excessive attention from family members, less exposure to external social groups, and the focus on solitary activities while growing up as an only child should be his/her great edge to become a better person which should be what's expected.
About the cover photo: People might have this cringe moments when we actually get what we want. Everyone should know that getting what we want is only what makes us feel better because we long for more and that is the love from our siblings which we didn't experience at all.
I may not have any brothers or sisters but then I treat my real friends as one. More than a family member.
It is just only me and my mom in this world. My father died when I was 9 years old right after my birthday that's why even though I am an only child, I didn't have the luxury of getting what I want in just a flick of a hand.
Me and my mom while I treat her out. Paid my movie ticket because she has a free movie pass being a Senior Citizen. We just cherish each other's company while she is still strong.
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Wait? You mean you are the only child? No brother and sister? But prohibiting punishment to the child are against to God's law...
Now I know... Kaya pala panatag loob ko sa iyo... The same only child pala tayo... 😇 We grew up with our cousins...
Wow at least kayo po may mga kinagisnang mga kalaro. Pero yes I am free to go outside naman and play with my neighbors. Ayoko mag isa sa loob ng bahay. Pero there are times I wanted to be alone lang talaga while watching Princess Sarah, Cedie and A Dog of Flanders. That is the only time I do tantrums if I have my playmates with me at ang iingay nila while watching these cartoons.
Uyy! favorite ko lahat ng cartoons na iyan! Wala ako pinapalampas!!! Kadalasan absent sa school mapanuod lang ang mga iyan! Ahahahahahaha... Ang hirap mag isa ano? Swerte pa din ako kasi may mga pinsan ako at kapatid sa ama? Pero di ko sila close... Tuksuhin kasi ako na BOBO... Mahina kasi talaga utak ko? Pero awa ng Dios, ako pa mismo ang nakatulong sa kanila upang marating nila ang ibang bansa... After that, hindi na nila ako binalikan at kinilalang kapatid? Saklap ano? Mabuti pa mga kapatid ko sa INA mahal na mahal nila ako at continues ang communication namin kahit hanggang ngayon na malayo kami sa isa't isa...
Ay grabeh! Ok na Yun tsong at least nakatulong po Kayo! May kasabihan nga na pag tumulong po Tayo kalimutan na natin na ginawa natin Yun Kasi it only means we are not expecting something in return na kahit pwede natin isumbat in the end. Saludo ako syo jan. Kaya patuloy tayo pinagpapala kasi Alam NG Diyos Ang totoo nating layunin sa buhay at nasa loob NG puso natin. I also had a half sister. Pero di kami masyado nagkasama at sa chat Lang kami nagkakausap. Uso pa non ay Yahoo messenger. She died at the age of 33 because of diabetes. The same age my father died from a motor accident. Nakakatuwa isipin na your still close to your siblings sa mother's side. Keep it up Kasi minsan Yan Yung nagpapsaya satin which makes us feel complete na Alam mong may kapatid ka at mabuti pakikitungo nyo sa isat Isa.
Same with my eldest Apo, unico hijo din, hirap niya mag adjust sa madaming cousins pag mag abot abot lahat
See? diba may impact talaga? pero yes magandang topic sana kaya ito sa isang diskusyon sa SPP GC hehehe.
I can only imagine what it means to be an only child because I have two siblings, but I know how it feels not get what you want. Ever since I was young, I already had this sense that I should work hard in order to get what I want. True enough, as the eldest, I felt I was compelled to be responsible and dependable. I had always been an achiever in school because I felt it's my way of showing an example.
Since elementary, I always try to find means to earn money on my own. One of the reasons why I'm here was because I write articles for websites before, via upwork.com. I dreamed of having a blog site of my own, but I found better.
P.S. I'll always be supportive of people who looked at quality content more than earning.
I totally admire people who worked at such a young age for the sake of the family. Oh yes upwork. Who wouldn't know that. I have a friend who got millionaire there because the client totally hired her outside upwork to work for her as an online executive assistant with a salary of 120,000 pesos per month. She even give me some projects to accomplish and get a thousand pesos for a two-hour easy tasks.
At some point when my mom has extra money she asks me what do I like to buy. Naiiyak ako now Kasi during those times nag sisideline si mama nagbebenta NG chicken and egg sandwich sa mga katrabaho nya at Yun Lang Yung pwede nya naibigay sakin Kung gusto ko sumama sa weekends together with my classmates manood NG sine sa mga malls pag Saturdays. Most of the time I refused Kasi I tell her idagdag na lang sa budget namin Yun instead gastusin ko pa.
Hahaha freewrite ko turned out to be a drama.
Yes, been here a long time, Hindi pa aq nag powerdown. Eto Ang naipon ko 100 steem out of the one or two cents that I get each time sa steemit non.
I was an only child until I was 15. Pero persistent si fudra and mudra my little sister came along when I was in 4th year HS. I agree with what you stated above, an only child is an excellence seeker, deep thinker, independent, could be an introvert but can be great leaders too (look at you! 😉).
Oh yes, that could also be a factor din pala to be an only child until such time your sibling came in sa family. The reason both of you gotten along well ni Tsong Ken din. Hahaha I don't consider myself a leader yet coz I haven't gotten to that position sa work as a supervisor. I was thinking for that term kanina pa Yung pagiging independent. And there you! Thank you for letting me remember. Happy to see your genuine comment. This will serve as a freewrite saga initiated by tsong Ken earlier.
You may not have gotten to that "supervisory" level in the corporate world but that doesn't mean that you do not have innate leadership abilities. You have a way of dealing with people that is mature, you are a good mediator too as I can observe in our very, very slight interactions. 😊
OMG! Nakakainspire at nakakataba Naman NG puso ang observations nyo ate. But yes I just stick to my principles at Hindi aq nahihiya na aminin na Mali ako and from there I learn, i feel sorry and apologize Kung may masaktan ako. Basta full support AQ sa inyo at sa mga bago nating makakasama sa hive.