....no one knows of course, but it sounds very similar to my 'rite of passage' from a broken relationship with a 'soul' mate'.
I took me 5 or 6 years to 'get over it'.
'Getting over it' is incorrect.
It's accepting that once your heart is truly broken, it's still your heart, but it will forever not beat the same.
Better?
Worse?
Neither. Just differently .... Forever.
It's a different you, now. (that's how I visualize it anyways)
Hence 'the rite of passage'. Growing up? Very possibly.
No one said (re) birth wasn't traumatic..
Not exactly an uplifting comment, but I think I understand where you are, what you are going through.
Time matey...as painful and fucked up as it is..
well, it wasn't exactly the most uplifting post, so the comment fits appropriately. lol.
and it is appreciated.
I heard once that it takes twice as long as a relationship lasted to fully "get over it." By that math, at 36 now and it having lasted 7 years... I may be good to go for another by the time I hit 50.
That sounds kinda horribly depressing yet perfectly reasonable at the same time. Though of course, whoever said that coulda just been trying to pass off their own theory as truth for everyone, which surely isn't valid for everyone...
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Purely from my own perspective... there is no getting over it. There is no 'it'....the process itself changes the person forever.
Accepting the new person that you have become is the trick.
(....which I think, only time can achieve).
'The old you' doesn't exist anymore. (looking back, that's how I can frame it relative to myself)
....And that's a fucker.(in my experience).
yep. that sums it up pretty well.