Coughy not coffee, and the twisted daughter

in #thoughts2 years ago

It was meant to be a Daddy/ Daughter day as my wife has gone back to work now that Christmas is behind us. The plan was to dress up and go into the city where we would play in a park and then have coffee together and perhaps have a look around a shopping center. However, last night she got a fast onset flu and I was up until 3 am with her coughing and spluttering. This morning she is not much better, yet I think me might make it into the city, even if it is just for a drive as she has spent so much of the last month indoors ill, and this illness is on top of a mystery allergic reaction that we haven't been able to work out yet.

What we have done today however is play Twister, something we got her for Christmas. It is far too big for her to play properly, but she loves it all the same. Since she spends so much time inside, we figured it was a good way for her to still get some decent movement in.


To be honest, I am a little disappointed as we haven't been able to go out together for quite a while and the last few months have had so many health issues here. It isn't easy at the best of times, but having constant illness to contend with on top doesn't help matters. We are pretty lucky however, as @smallsteps is about the best a kid can be under these circumstances and she is generally mature beyond her years when it comes to dealing with it all.

It kind of worries me at times too though, as I know what it is like to be a child that matures a little too fast as a kid can end up feeling somewhat disconnected from peers. For me, it was for different reasons, but I am guessing that the outcome could be quite the same where there might not be a great deal of friends in the age group in the early years and one connects more with adults.

Later on there can be benefits to this also however, and at least for me, one of those things is that I have never felt below others, no matter their relative status based on social indicators - instead I have felt and acted as more of an equal. For me at least, this has been valuable for my professional dealings and has opened doors that might have remained closed if I had been unable to hold my own amongst elders and people more highly skilled than myself.

The "old soul" issue might be genetic also, but I am sure that the nurture through childhood supports its development. There are pros and cons to every personality however, and once we get past about the age of 12, there is very little we can do to change it, but we can learn to understand how we operate and react, and then implement better and earlier detection and filters to improve outcomes.

It is part of the "examined life" and those who think that they can't change are likely very mistaken as under the right conditions, everyone seems to have the capacity to be fundamentally changed. It doesn't mean it is easy of course, nor that the conditions required are pleasant.

I believe that many changes are made through the most challenging times of our lives, but even under similar conditions, people can react quite differently. A person abused as a child can be broken, or strengthened by the conditions - A lottery winner could be empowered or restricted by the prize. While we all have various predispositions, it is up to us to at least attempt to change if we want, but I find even people who want will justify the lack or limited attempts made by saying, it is just the way they are.

Maybe it is true, but if one actually wants to change, why would they ever stop trying and experimenting with different after failures? Even if failure is near certain, the attempt is still valid if the desire for an alternate outcome is present. Of course, whether one wants to change is a personal decision as well, and some people feel that their own status quo is better than attempting and failing. Perhaps it comes down to hope and disappointment - one can't be disappointed by the failure to accomplish what one never entertained as a possibility.

It is all well and good for me to spend time thinking about these things, but I have the hope that my daughter will be strengthened enough by her early challenges so as to be better prepared to face the ones to come. I do not envisage the world getting fundamentally better or easier to negotiate in the coming years and as always, it will be the ones who have skills, drive, resiliency and tenacity who will find ways to overcome what the world puts in their path. Of course, the first hurdle to overcome is oneself, and that is a challenge that requires lifelong attention.

The road of life is full of twists and turns - maybe Twister will support the development of skilled hands and sure feet.

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Twister: training tool for life!

It is one of the many games I never had as a kid, but wanted. I think that the lack of it is why I am so ill-prepared now :D

Sales here and the last couple of daysi have been feeling the pain too!

Of course, the first hurdle to overcome is oneself, and that is a challenge that requires lifelong attention.

A constant battle to not get your hands and feet crossed :)

It is easier when you play alone .

I have been wondering that for a long time, although less fun at times :)

Definitely less fun as there are some positions that are better experienced as a couple... or more :D

I'm playing Twister with small in July! So fun!

There are going to be some Twister-related injuries I suspect.

Yes...Do you have a good Chiro that speaks English? I'll need one.

Never been to a chiro here. I have a decent bonesetter though... I will explain later :D

Ah ok...Well, I might have to forego the Twister then...My back won't take it.

Chiropractors are the best for twister related injuries! [chiropractic student here — saw that comment and had to jump in!]

Chiropractors bare goofball round. I'd be a cripple if not for my Chiro. Thanks for your comment. Hope your studies are going well.

There's not a ton of chiropractic schools outside the U.S. unfortunately. They are! First year down, three more years to go!

There's one here in Australia, RMIT I think it's called, in Melbourne.

Only 3 years...Not long at all! :)

I don't trust them in Finland for some reason.

Reading others ramblings make my own ramblings make a bit more sense. Great read. My son got the flu two weeks ago. My husband and I were in a similar spot. It was finals week and it was hell.

It is terrible to have sick kids while studying. My wife spent 8 months doing her thesis (graduated in May) while I worked two full-time jobs. The late nights back to back and early mornings were killer.

How'd your finals go?

YES! You know. I passed, finished -- and am taking a well needed holiday break!

Congrats! Enjoy the time off.

Aaargh poor thing 😖 if you don’t make it all the way to the city is they some sun outside you can at least get into? The vitamin D might help maybe?

Hope all the extra bugs bugger off soon, there’s enough to deal with.

We made it, but it wasn't overly active.

The sun rises around 10am and sets about 3pm and doesn't make it much over the horizon at this time of year 😅

Congratulations @tarazkp!
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