It sounds counter intuitive, we think of communication as speaking, we equate it, but thinking of it in such simplistic terms tends to ignore the other half of the equation. We need to know the language we must speak to move forward. I’m not using the word language in a traditional sense here, I’m actually referring to the angle, the perspective and worldview of the person who is participating of the conversation with you.
What I’m trying to say is that by becoming better listeners we can attempt to find a common ground that we can use to establish a healthy conversation. You would be surprised to know how many disagreements come from semantics and not so much the substance of the discussion or debate.
This applies not only to the world of business, but of course the skill to be a better listener does provide you with an edge when making negotiations and establishing healthy relationships. I’ve talked before on how important it is for each one of us to grow our network, to develop relationships that can bring true value to our life. This idea goes hand in hand with becoming better listeners, better communicators.
If you’ve walked away from a conversation where only you have done all the talking, you might have done exactly the opposite of what is best. I’ve come to practice over the years this while working with some people I’ve mentored. I needed to know how they saw things, so that I could try to show them a different world view and sometimes we both walked away a little wiser.
That is the goal of a healthy conversation, even when it escalates into what we call debates. Respect is key of course, but an element of respect is learning to listen to the person making the opposing point to yours. This of course is one of those things that are easier said than done, our first instinct is to react, to defend, to correct and this is why I say this requires conscious practicing.
Interactions in groups can make things even more complicated. Picking the right time to add a comment, knowing when to do so, adding value to the conversation, being assertive and eliminating the fluff are things we all must attempt to get good at when developing our network and our relationships.
One of my focuses in life has been the practice of assertiveness. As a musician I often had short windows of opportunities to speak up, to share a thought with a radio host, to introduce myself to a personality and learning what to say, what not to say in those short minutes always made the biggest difference.
I believe the first step to becoming a better communicator is reflection. Asking ourselves some honest questions, without attempting to confuse ourselves. Do we listen, more than we talk? Do we attempt to understand the other person’s point? Are we being assertive with our points? Do I consciously look for a common ground to establish a conversation?
If any of these questions are things you have never thought of, today might be the perfect time to start thinking about them. After all, we all know how important it is to develop our network and without honing in our communication skills the task will remain like a dream and not something we are all equipped to accomplish.
Until next time, much success to all
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Communication is very important things on humans. Often times we misunderstood people we are not with for a long time. Even sometimes ourselves, we misunderstood ourselves. If we only knew each other there is no trouble in family, wife, husband, child, co-worker etc. Great point of view @chbartist
In deed, becoming better listener is one of the most important keys. Putting yourself in their shoes is also another important key.
excellent run down about communication skills as a whole, loved it.
communication is good and because without communication a lot of thing can not be existing . Am happy to be part of this conversation because i believe there experienced people here and i can learn a lot of things
The truth is that they way a person communicate it tend to explain a lot of things that belong to that person. Sometime it can be a way of distracting her/him self guys let be carefully when you communicate with others.
Right sir
Yes there is number of advantage of communication but people think about that side only and not another its time to look the bad side of communication. Community need to know about that.
First of all, see the contact between the beaches and the better Become a Better Communicator / Results. The ability to communicate in different areas, and sometimes can be conformed. I believe that I am enjoying only the various things I think. Like, so invite everyone to see
Same to you bro
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Beautiful .. wonderful words from you
Yes we need this we are social creatures
Thanks for sharing
Hey I can relate to you as for many years I had a problem with assertiveness! I can also emphasize your point about reflection, but I would like to also add maybe you can get reviews from others about how you communicate and how you come across. Sometimes we are our own worst critic, and we don't realize if we are doing something right/wrong! I believe communication is very important in this day in age with smart phones and social media. I walk around everywhere and most people's heads are looking straight down at their phones. If you master the art of communication while everybody is below average these days, you will really stand out! :)
I absolutely agree with your point of view @jfitmisc. Thank you for sharing your ideas. 😃
Great @jfitmisc
I fully agree. People miss out on so much of the world when their heads are looking down at their phones. Communication is critical
Dear @chbartist
It is very essence of communication to find stronger side and to build on it. I can tell that approach here is something I support and share. In your approach with direct questions about the new things we have never used before, I can see originality and ability to get across several social media and across class of creative members and followers. It is something that I would look in leader like self where many of us can associate and feel connected with subject presented by you
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yes asking right question and listening carefully is very important
if one is a good communicator or an orator and he can explain thing with logic and example then people understand the concept better and he is in very great demand
Good luck ^^
This is informative and educating
Thank you for your input in steemit. Regards!
Communication is a two way street.Much like the telephone has a speaker and receiver,we must find the right balance.Though i find that speaking less and listening more has more advantages as well as a good exercise in self control.
Thanks you @chbartist Your post is great.
Regards
FS
Everywhere communication is the best way to become successful
A lot of us (myself included) want to be assertive with our opinions, we love that feeling of thinking ourselves intellectually superior. Truth is we're not, we're just really arrogant. Listening to other people's views and having meaningful conversations about them are the only true way to communicate effectively
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El tema de la comunicación es bastante interesante, pero a la vez es difícil consolidar una comunicación efectiva cuando el emisor y receptor no van al mismo ritmo, cuando no se entienden, en muchos casos ser asertivo trae muchas consecuencias, la mayoría de las personas no les gusta que le comuniquen sus verdades o le digan las cosas claras. Mis saludos, @chbartist.
So what do people like me do ? I have extreme social anxiety from decades of bulling and social exclusion. Its hard to become a good communicator, when you know that no one is listening to begin with. Sadly in this superficial world, people will ignore you if they find you ugly, don't like the way you dress or even due to the sound of your voice. There are so many barriers to entry when it comes to speaking in public.
Communication skills and abilities can be developed in a lifetime. To do this, you just need to set a goal to become an ideal interlocutor and constantly train your skills. The main thing is not to hone their skills on business partners. Better to let it be friends, ready to help you and support in your desire to be interesting to other people.
Love this line. Thanks for the lovely write-up.
One practice i've taken in my own life is slowing down my speech intentionally. When I go back and listen to myself speaking on recordings where I am consciously making an effort to slow down my words, I often end up conveying my message in a clearer way. I've noticed some talking heads on social media like Ben Shapiro who can make coherent points are bogged down by their brains being ahead of their mouths. This comes off as pretentious to me.
Yes communication helps in business but so much more valuable in personal relationships.
Interesting... looking forward to read more abut communication skills, and it would be a plus if you some how related it to better communications on Steemit blog. Cheers.
amazing post , Thanks for the great effort.
This topic is very interesting. Indeed, in becoming a good communicator we must learn to listen, because it is a tool in understanding the ideas of the person we talk to, thus, opening the doors into healthy discussions.
communication needs to improve by talking more and more
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Well, like you said, its all easier said than done... Everybody wants to be heard but very few care to listen to others. Its a selfish world we are in. I have been in a situation where I kept trying to be the listener until I couldn't take it anymore. Some people end up thinking their opinions are the ultimate just because you decided to listen to them most of the time without countering them. In such cases when you finally express your opinion intelligently proving them wrong, they become uncomfortable and relationships start to wither.. Being an effective communicator is good but sometimes feels like a curse because you just have to deal with the ineffective communicators on a regularly which becomes boring and exhaustive.
Nice article though... For me, effective listening is relative, not everyone deserves it.
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I know many families who are enemies because they do not know how to communicate. Communication allows us to inform and exchange or share ideas, which enrich us as human beings.
It is essential to communicate with our children and, above all, to listen to them, this helps them to have confidence in themselves and to be able to live in an increasingly demanding world.
We must learn to communicate as it is of vital importance to all human beings
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@chbartist communication skill is really important it helps a person to able speak well, listen well and performing well while among others .it is very neccessary too.
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Thank you for your advice
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Thank you for your advice
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Reaally love this😍🤗🤗
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True saying
I think that to be good communicator you have to understand how to communicate
thanks for this post. Keep these kinds of post coming.
This is a thoughtful article and well written. I agree wholeheartedly with your sentiments. Most people are more into "getting ready to reply" than into stepping back and actually "listening to respond". I believe that it is possible to build a more responsive network of contacts if people know you are prepared to actually pause your own life and listen with the intention of understanding.... Looking forward to more articles like these!
Good vibes and I wish you a lot of success!
Thankyou so much for your useful information