The Circumstances Behind Unwarranted Expressiveness; Are We As Humans Under-expressive Or Overly Expressive?

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The ability to express feelings is something that's mostly blocked by our ego, our sense of importance and well the fear from the outcome of what we've basically expressed in the first instance. Truth is, sometimes our mind suggests things to us and these things crawls into our minds, we form a perception as a result of them and mostly we never fail to act on them. We ourselves, our conscience sometimes act as a filter that allows us select the things we feel like expressing and the things we don't feel like expressing and sometimes we make the mistake of hiding the things we should express and expressing the things we should hide and the truth is, we never can tell, we're not immune to making the wrong choices and that's why we're human.

In life our abilities to discern from good or bad is often tainted by our feelings. We ourselves understands this and that's why we often conclude that our feelings can be a little bit misguided and definitely no one's 100% right in this discernment. In reality we can sometimes go beyond what we should feel and sometimes we make mistakes by being overly expressive. This means that life's filled with people whose interest aren't really aligned with ours and sometimes we meet these people more often than we think and it makes us feel as if the universe is against us. However knowing the right people makes us feel that being overly expressive isn't really bad.


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Infact, being expressive of our underlying feelings can be great especially if it's to people that these expressions should means anything to, anything different from this would of course lead too pain. In life sometimes we often cut short on our day dreams simply because they're mere wishful thinking. However we live in a world filled with different people having different interest and sometimes the things we feel might be seen as largely consequential especially when we begin to express them in ways and manners which seems unique and special to us. However we can't know it all and this is why we'd sometimes call into mistakes even if we never intended them to be.

I was remember visiting a particular place and while I was walking home, a particular little girl of about 12 or 13 walked to to me and said "hello sir, you're so handsome and I like you" I was caught in surprise and shock and because of the shock I couldn't talk and the confused little girl ran off to her friends obviously dejected. Her expression were definitely from her feelings but then they were largely wrong because it was to the wrong person, at the wrong time and wrong circumstances but because of the age and lack of discernment from the little girl she couldn't tell if it was right or wrong to express her feelings but then, I live in a society where girls, females in general hardly express the things they feel because they feel it's might affect them; their ego and their pride.

Truth is, even when the expression of feelings are right or good, it still doesn't guarantee acceptance. Now this extends beyond love. Expression of feelings or thoughts can be endless to different scenarios in life. However in most cases we end up expressing regrets whether we express or we don't because when we don't and later found out that it would have worked out, we express regret and pain and when we do and it didn't just play to the extension of our emotions we end up angry, bereaved and numb and our expressive abilities will become blunter with time. Truth is, I can't tell you to either be expressive or not. What I actually capitalise on is being expressive when the situation or circumstances is right irrespective of the outcome.





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I liked your position on the assertiveness needed to lead us better in the way we express ourselves, however I confess that it generated a certain existential dilemma for me as well.

In my case, since I was very young I was taught that "feeling emotions" made me weak, that I should always be attentive to take care of that personal world, and today I think it was only that ego-driven fear that you talk about for fear of what others would say or being rejected

The truth is that for a few years I have found this path of evolution where I have learned that feeling and expressing emotions is not bad, rather, it is totally consistent with how you express Being, if you feel happy because you had a good day is wonderful, but if you are sad because you had a loss is equally wonderful, because the emotions are just for that, to express a "state" an experience.

What I feel is wrong is to repress them, to reject them, because that is a way of turning your back on your Self, and it also has a lot to do with your self-esteem and the perception you have of the world.

Thank you for making me enter into this reflection 🙏

Feeling emotions hardly makes us weak, sometimes the contention lies in whether you're too expressive or under expressive and if we basically have no emotions then what's the essences? It's a core part of us and it's beautiful when expressed rightly. Thanks a lot for your comment

Very very good ... It is complicated but very important to express ourselves.

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